(Closed) Put up or Shut Up…. LOL… Dress Drama

posted 6 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I do not “love” my dress either enough, I like it. That is good enough  for me. This is because I do not have time to scour the earth looking for the dress I “love”. I mean it took me 26 years the man I love, so why should I be able to find a dress I love within  a few months. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

think you should just wear the dress your mom brought.  you like it right. maybe if you get ur hair done and make up done put the dress on to make sure it still fits– 5 years is a long time.. and see how you feel in the dress. when u look like u want to on ur day

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I didn’t love my dress when i bought it (my mum loved it) and i had seen so many dresses i really couldn’t choose…. but on my wedding day i still felt like the most beautiful woman in the world and thats exactly what it was meant to do. Since the wedding i am very much in love with my dress and i loved my photo’s which for me was the most important thing (besides getting married of course). I do believe that there is too much focus on ‘the dress’ but at the end of the day its just one part of the many things that make up such a wonderful day.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Are you caught up with the fact that when you bought the dress you were engaged to somebody else? If so, I understand wanting a new dress.  

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think the idea that you have to 100% fall in love with a dress comes from a lot of wedding TV. Some people may have that moment, but a lot won’t and that’s okay. As long as you like you dress and the way you look, it will be good! If you’re really unsure about it, try out your full wedding day look (dress, hair, makeup, veil, etc) and see what you think.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

How about wearing the dress your mom bought for the ceremony

then something more fun for the reception that you can feel fantastic in. That’s what I would do!

Post # 12
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133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it does come from the whole TV show thing.. How many people do they show that don’t get the feeling or don’t really have that moment? None.. so thats where we get this idea that we should swoon over our dresses and get crazy! Everything will change once you have the whole picture and regardless your husband to be is going to think you’re the most beautiful woman in the world!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It being my second go around and wedding (divorced 13 years ago) and knowing then I was not pleased with my dress I searched for over 6 months to find the perfect one for me.  I can’t imagine not walking down the aisle again with everyone looking at me with a dress I did not personally feel was just stunning.  When I got married the first time I was not pleased and now that I am overjoyed with my decision I realize I did miss out the first time. Not everyone obviously feels this way but I would say you already sort of feel like you are missing out on something maybe.  

Post # 16
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1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

It’s very pretty and flattering.

I’m in a similar boat.. Our wedding timeframe was dictated to us by immigration. Originally we thought we’d be able to do it spring 2011. I was dress shopping in dec 2010 so I felt the pressure and literally bought the first thing I really liked. It’s now (definitely) scheduled for May 2012. I just don’t love it completely. Knowing what I know now I would have kept looking, but hindisight is 20/20.

Is there anything you could do or have altered to make it feel better for you? Can you add some personality to it, if that’s what you feel it’s lacking? I added a black sash and bolero with some detail I like to my dress to make it a little more mine.

If your mom might get hurt, you have budget limitations and you still like it enough I’d probably just wear it.

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