Oldtimer popping in here… as I couldn’t resist the title (at over 50 I am old enough to be a Granny)
roxy821: you have gotten EXCELLENT advice from the other Moms / Bees.
It will all work itself out for you eventually. For now tho, you really are on your Baby’s schedule until they sleep thru the night consistently.
Which is ok… just make sure that you get enough rest for yourself. Some of the best advice is when baby naps mid-day, go have a lie down yourself. It might be tempting to stay up (do laundry, lol) but really you will wear yourself out in short order if you don’t get some sleep.
Lol, Mothers are the most sleep deprived people on this planet… no need to intentionally sign up for that honour now (there will be years in the future where you find yourself the last one awake doing chores, and the first one up in the morning getting the household going. 5 Hours sleep will become your norm soon enough, I’m afraid… especially so if you are heading back to work)
I also, agree with the sentiments that crystlrox: posted… in regards to
“Your Baby’s First Year” by the American Academy of Pediatrics and it says you cannot spoil a young baby with attention. I have also heard that from the nurses at the hospital.
Infants cannot be spoiled… they are too busy sleeping, eating, pooing, and cooing… they love the cuddle… and WHAT MOM doesn’t ADORE the one-on-one time too (and yes they are amazing “little” people and super cute too boot… and they have their own unique smell too when they are freshly bathed… sort of like “clean cotton”)
Ahhh the memories !!
It won’t be until there are 6 months old or so, when you’ll start to see elements of their personality that can make all this go astray… as others have said, from that point on you have to very very consistent… because they are beginning to understand patterns (lol, they can’t tell time, they can only judge things by behaviour)
What you do at that point and time and forward will make all the difference.
To be honest, one of the primary reasons that people have well-behaved kids are because they get into a habit of consistent parenting. And Daddy has to be on board as well… the two of you have to agree what the Routines will be and try not to waiver from them too much… such as Naptime – Dinner time – Bath time – Bed time etc
All this forms the foundation for later on when they are Toddlers, Kids and Teens. They need to know what is expected of them (a child WILL ALWAYS want to please you… so make it easy for them).
Where it all breaks down, is as Parents we grow tired. Or we have a bad day. You change the routine for children (especially older children) and don’t tell them WHY and they’ll figure the dam has broken away…
When our kids were little (toddlers), Meal Time was one area we worked on from the time they were on “a routine”. Things were consistent and always the same. By the time they were kids and teens they were very aware of what was expected of them for mealtime. Wash your hands – set the table – no “personal stuff” at the table (no game boys, cellphone calls, music buds) – no getting up and running around – ask to be excused – clear your plate to the counter / sink / dishwasher
And Dinner was family time… for catching up on each other’s day. So you couldn’t not show up, unless you had made prior arrangements that we all knew about. (And Sunday Dinner was ALWAYS MANDATORY… unless there was a very very specific reason)
Of course.. I am eons down the road here… but you get the idea.
What you do when they are young is important.
Lol, fortunately for you… tho, this is the time when NONE OF THAT MATTERS
Just snuggle your baby close, and enjoy. Trust me the time will pass far too quickly**
** Feels like yesterday in someways (good ways), but in reality my youngest is now close to 30… how time flys.