Putting divorced parents on same line of invitation?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would think that was strange since your parents are remarried. I would write “together with their families” instead.

Post # 4
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

My parents are divorced and my fiances are too, they will both be on the same lines. Do what YOU want 🙂

Post # 5
2276 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@jennygrl070:  Both our parents are divorced and remarried so we used:




Together with their families


Bride & Groom


Request the pleasure of your company in


Celebration of our marriage




Post # 6
1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@jennygrl070: I think putting them on seperate lines is totally weird and disruptive. 

My parents are divorced, neither remarried, and their names were on the same line of our invitations. It was worded like this, to show that they aren’t married:

John Smith and Jane Smith cordially invite you (as opposed to the standard John and Jane Smith cordially invite you). 

I think the way you have it is perfect.


Post # 7
7019 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@jennygrl070:  I think what you want to do is perfect.

I don’t think etiquette requires separate lines. EDIT: Correction, I did find some sites saying they should be on separate lines with no “and” in between. But I always say common sense trumps etiquette, so don’t do anything which your common sense tells you reads strangely. (And I agree: with no “and” it reads strangely; in fact I’d go further and say it’s bad grammar).

EDIT: If your mother has taken her new husband’s surname, you could make it unambigous by adding their titles. If you say “Mrs. Jane Smith and Mr. Bob Jones” then it would be clear. If they were married and she had a different surname she would be “Ms. Jane Smith” not “Mrs. Jane Smith”. “Mrs” means you are using your husband’s surname.

Post # 8
4511 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think if you’re mom is worried about what people will think, then you should listen to her desires. While it might be YOUR wedding, it is HER name and reputation!

Post # 9
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Typically it would say

Jane Smith

John Doe

request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Jessica Lynn

to Ryan Jones

son of Kelly and George Jones

Post # 10
3202 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We did ours all on one line, and everyone still has the same last name, lol. We didn’t worry about etiquette and confusion–just wanted everyone to feel happy and included!

Just a question: do you not want to include the step-parents? I know my step-mom would have been crushed if she weren’t on the invite.

Anyway, ours looks like this:

John & Elizabeth Hargrove and Felicia Hargrove

invite you to celebrate the marriage of their daughter

Olivia Jane


Post # 11
920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Personally I’d just ask what your parents want and do what makes them happy.  I find seperate lines with their remarried spouses better.

Post # 12
261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We had this problem too, so went for “together with their families, jane doe and james bond invite you blahblah”. I think the wording is cute.

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