Post # 1
I’ve done this before (4 times in the last 6 years *same job)
But the time has come. I’m sick of the false promises, the lack of respect, the overwhelming problems in terms of management. I want a clean break. It’s not the best timing… Our baby is due in July. But the reality is I have another job and Darling Husband has a job, so it’s not the loss of money, but more the loss of some piece of me that I’m struggling with. This job has been my identity, my friendship, my family. It’s opened my eyes, taught me valuable lessons, and given me some lifelong relationships (including meeting DH). But the stress is just too much. Not because I’m preggers, just because it always has been. The last time I quit, the boss promised me all the little things I needed in order to stay… slowly but surely I’m in exactly the same spot I was in. My boss doesn’t take me seriously and, as the only female and with the example of the boss, neither do my coworkers.
I’m so nervous – and I really don’t ever want to go back. (don’t tell me I’m non confrontational, that’s just a given) I’m not a slacker, at all – in fact, I have worked so hard to change the bad things about this job and make them right. But without the support of the boss, change is impossible. I know it’s time to let go – but I need a pep talk.
I must stay strong – get this done and STAY AWAY this time. Wish I had the balls to do that last time!
Post # 3
Good luck girl! I hope that your boss takes it well and understands. Be strong!
Post # 4
If you do give in and stay I suggest writing up a contract with your boss outlining the things that need to change and how they will change
Post # 5
@stefanieastronaut: Good luck! It sounds like a frustrating situation, I hope you go through with it.
Keep us updated!
Post # 6
If you have another job & so does your Darling Husband, I say go for it & don’t look back. You need to cut the emotion out of it and make it a clean break, just like a bad or abusive relationship. If the company needed to downsize & had to lay you off, they wouldn’t be wobbling back & forth on the decision… they’d just let your ass go! Just keeping it real… don’t allow yourself to get emotionally attached to a company, because, in reality, they’re not that attached to you. Business is business. They’re looking out for #1 & so should you!
Good luck, sweetie. Hope you come back to let us know how things go. :o)
Post # 7
Sounds familiar (myself – I’ve had 4 job changes over the last eight years, where each position was a step up from the prior and more $$). You already know what you need to do, girl. And from your own pep talk, it sounds like you’ve thought it through and know its time to part ways. I agree that working for a boss that doesnt respect or motivate you to stay are red flags and can’t be good for you emotionally and careerwise. So just pull that trigger and move on. Many wonderful opportunities will await you.
Congratulations on the baby and best of luck with the job situation. 🙂
Post # 8
Thanks guys <3 I will definitely update you
Post # 9
The meatball is in the sauce (the deed is done)
Post # 10
@stefanieastronaut: woohoo! so thats it? no begging for you to stay or tell you they’ll do what you want this time?
Post # 11
Nope – nothin! Which is better, honestly. Not as flattering, but definitely better. I just know better things await… even though now I probably will wait to get another job till the baby comes… if I get another job at all.
I was thinking about teaching flute lessons again – just cheapies for the neighborhood kids. I always enjoyed that in our other neighborhood!