Post # 1
Are you “out” as having met online? Are you comfortable if it is brought up at your wedding?
A few of my close friends know that Fiance and I met online, but I thought that none of my family knew. We were always fairly vague with them. I am not embarassed about it exactly, but there is still a bit of stigma in my circle about online dating.
I just happened upon my sister’s draft Maid/Matron of Honor speech while visiting her and to start with it had a couple of not so nice jokes in it. Also, she makes a “plenty of fish” joke. I am uncomfortable with this. I don’t know if I should say something or just let it go? She is the one that will end up looking silly, right?
Ugh, I want to elope so badly. This whole wedding is just causing me so much anxiety and doesn’t even feel “fun” anymore.
Post # 3
Well I will tell you this, I have a horror story behind how I met my Fiance, but everyone knows it, and honestly it makes me laugh so it’s okay now. If it got brought up at my wedding…I suppose I could laugh about it, but if these jokes are going to upset you on your big day I would tell her. It’s not her right as a Maid/Matron of Honor to make you feel bad. My Fiance and I met through Myspace of all places, it wasn’t random, I had known a guy online for years and he lived in the same town as my Fiance, but still…Myspace? Ugh! lol Terrible. But that’s not the worst part, or the funniest part. the guy that introduced us was, in his mind, my ex boy friend, and also, in his mind, a VAMPIRE! haha, not kidding here…He was also in love with me and tried to break us up when we first got together. So yeah, a creepy guy thinking he’s a vampire hooked me and my Fiance up on Myspace. Does that embarrass me? Not really. I never would have met the man I’m going to marry if it weren’t for all of that. The stigma on online dating is stupid. But like I said, if you can’t handle whats being said in her speech, she shouldnt be able to say it, in my opinion at least. But don’t be ashamed of how you met, you’re getting married, you’re in love. It doesn’t matter how it happens 🙂
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s anything to be ashamed of that you met online, and I’m sure your Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t either, which is why she’s okay with bringing it up in her speech. However, if you think it would make you feel awkward, just be honest with her and don’t have it mentioned at the wedding.
Post # 5
We met on match, and most everyone knows it. No one has ever given us any grief over it. How is meeting someone online any worse than meeting someone in a bar? I know happily married couples from eharmony, match, okcupid, and plentyoffish. Like PP above me said, it doesn’t matter how it happens.
We’ve even embraced how we met. On the back of our programs, we did a little “thanks” blurb, thanking our friends and family. At the very bottom, we wrote “P.S. Thank you Match!” Don’t be ashamed. You’re happy and in love and so many people would kill to have that!
Post # 6
We met in the most interesting of ways on Craigslist. Not a typical internet dating experience, and when people find out they think its pretty awesome (and many are inspired to try it themselves). So, to answer your question, yes we are ‘out’ – but only because its such a good story we can’t help but share it with others.
I dont think its anything to be ashamed of, but if you’d prefer that it not be shared at your wedding, make sure you have a little chat with those giving speeches about what you really dont’ want mentioned.
Post # 7
I’ve never understood the criticism of those who have met online. Our society is evolving and the Internet is just one more way that people come into contact with one another. Darling Husband and I met in college, but cheers to those of you who met online. 🙂
Post # 8
We met on the same site (plentyoffish). I didn’t tell my parents at first, but it came out eventually. (Actually, the lady at the dress shop spilled the beans to my mom. Awkward at the time, but made a good story. I was actually on tv this year and during the ‘contestant chat’ part, told that story.)
Post # 9
We met online. I don’t care at all and have told all my family/friends, but Darling Husband did not tell anyone for a LONG time, and has now only told a couple people. He made me explicitly tell my Maid/Matron of Honor that she was NOT to mention anything about it in the speech. She still ended saying some kind of awkward but unrelated things in the speech, but yeah, no one cares, and she’s the only one who looks silly. But it certainly wouldnt hurt if you mentioned to your Maid/Matron of Honor that you would appreciate if she didn’t make any jokes like xyz or whatever.
Post # 10
Most people I guess would assume my husband & I met in high school since we was 15 & 17 when we started dating. But we met on myspace. & I am pretty sure most of our friends know & I know our family knows. Atleast our parents. Or anyone who has asked.
Its nothing to be ashamed of. I seriously think of it as a miracle. Seriously! I mean out of ALL of the people on myspace my husband found & added ME! There was only so much of a percentage chance for him to find me out of the billions of people who use to use myspace but he did anyways.
Every year on Thanksgiving we say we are thankful for… Myspace! haha 🙂
Post # 11
My Fiance and I met online. All of our friends know this and so do our parents, however we have been less than honest with our parents about what website we met on. Our parents think we met on Facebook. We actually met on a site called SuicideGirls. And neither of us want our parents knowing we were members there to begin with. lol
So I hope it doesn’t come out at the wedding.. that would be awkward.
Post # 12
We are completely out about it. I never hesitate to tell anyone that Fiance and I met on OkCupid. In fact, amongst our circle of friends, many of the couples met the same way. My best friend is engaged to a guy she met on OkCupid as well!
Everytime someone is surprised that we met online, I tell them that online dating is like online shopping. You just peruse the choices, weed out the bad stuff, and pick your favorites. For me, it was a wonderful way to meet him.
Post # 13
@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: did you guys live in the same city being so young?
Post # 14
@sarasouth: I love your analogy. 🙂
Post # 15
Yes we met online, but met in real life really soon afterwards so never really had an online “relationship”. We didn’t tell anyone, not really sure why. Im not embarrassed by it myself. I think it’s because he’s older we were maybe a bit worried that people would jump to conclusions?
Post # 16
We openly tell people we met online.