Post # 1
Hey everyone im new to the “Bee” and was reading some posts… I’m little concerned that if I share my experience about a vendor whether I pick them or not that I will be ganged up on by other members of their profession I heard from a lot of my friends who are getting married that this a supportive place not a place to get ripped to shreds? Thanks so much!
Post # 3
The hive is pretty darn good about figuring out who was in the “right” in terms of vendor reviews. If you have a legitimate bad review of a vendor, including specific reasons for why you were unhappy with their services, then you will have no problem posting here.
I have a feeling you read the recent photographer review where a bunch of photographers spoke up for the vendor. The OP didn’t really have a legitimate reason for giving the vendor a bad review, and her first post didn’t even say why she wouldn’t recommend the photographer! In cases like that it is very likely that others will come to the vendors rescue, at least until a better explanation is given.
Post # 4
@babyboo: I just don’t like how they ganged up on the poor girl, to me she was just sharing her experience and letting others know perhaps I am being Naive
Post # 5
I agree with babyboo. As long as you state your case why this vendor didn’t do what you wanted, you should be fine.
Post # 6
@SoontoBeeABC: there is a difference between sharing your experience and putting a completely negative spin on something because it didn’t work out to your liking! I’ve seen girls here get unfairly ganged up, however I don’t feel that was the case with that poster.
Lesson learned: give honest feedback with specific incidents and people will treat your review fairly 🙂
Post # 8
I totally agree with babyboo. The post about the photographer was totally unfair and she did not have a legitimate reason for bashing the photographer. Posting about vendors is very influential because brides make decisions based upon these reviews. As long as you are being honest about the situation, then you will have no problem here.
Post # 9
This is a great place and if you are truthful about your experiences with a vendor, you won’t get ripped to shreds. I usually don’t mention the names of vendors on here unless I have praise for them though.
Please don’t be frightened off!
Post # 10
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: Thanks so much! I just hope she feels welcome to stay on the board as well!
Post # 11
I saw the post, and I think those photographers ripped into her unjustly. It makes my blood boil when I see someone come here and explain how dishonest a vendor was (yes, they were). The photographer should have contacted her as soon as the date was available and I left my opinion on that thread. Have no fear, SoontoBeeABC! There’s usually someone that’ll side with you 🙂
Post # 12
I just want to thank you girls for being so supportive I told the entire truth and nothing but the truth and I stand by what I said I never tried to hurt her or her family so no idea where she got that from I was just stating my experience, I am not one to not speak my mind, i’ll prob not be on the board for a while if at ever but I just wanted to thank you girls! and welcome to the boards hope they treat you more fairly than I was treated
Post # 13
I’m not going to drag the other thread into this one, but I just wanted to point out that 9 times out of 10 when a bride posts about a vendor, it’s a legitimate complaint and my sympathies and best advice go out to the bride. Especially with photography, I like to think my knowledge base of how things operate can be very very helpul to brides.
I would NEVER contact a vendor and let them know about a bad review, when it’s so clearly an honest and justified one. Other brides deserve to know so they can avoid similar situations. However, at the same time I don’t feel it’s fair when the post is malicious or false, as the post in question turned out to in fact be.
I also wanted to add that I hope you don’t get the wrong impression about this place. That thread was definitely an anomoly, and those of us on this site are absolutely notorious for being extremely supportive and non-judgemental. In fact, I saw a post recently complaining about how we’re all so sugary sweet we must be a bunch of fakers lol. Catch 22. I personally think we MOSTLY follow the “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all” policy. Welcome to the boards 🙂
Post # 14
If you are going to post a vendor review, it is a good idea to follow Weddingbee’s Community Guidelines:
“The following Vendor guidelines apply when posting about, or as a vendor:
- Keep in mind that if you name your vendor, they will often find and read your post!
- If you want to vent very specific, angry and emotional thoughts, do not name your vendor or say anything that will likely reveal their identity. This way, you can express your thoughts without subjecting yourself to libel.
- If you do name a vendor, please write posts in a factual manner and avoid inflammatory statements. If you share what the vendor has done in an even handed way, then our readers can make their own informed opinion.
- Give the vendor a chance to respond and/or take action – either on the post, or through email or telephone.
- Vendors are encouraged to comment on Weddingbee, but any spam-like comments and blatant self-promotion will be deleted.
When posting about vendors, be responsible and fair. It’s never appropriate to talk about “destroying” a vendor.”
I’ve never seen a bride attacked if she posts a vendor review according to these guidelines. Really, they are just common sense, and a way to protect both the bride and the vendor. We’ve had bad reviews on here before, and vendors have responded to the review without it turning catty. I would encourage all brides to post reviews!
Post # 15
@SoontoBeeABC: Any chance you are also FutureMrsChaney? Your user bio is almost identical and your account was just created today..
Post # 16
@MightySapphire: I don’t remember her talking about destroying…it felt more like a warning. It was others who posted afterwards stating she was destroying. If she probably wouldn’t have posted it in such a passionate manner, some might not have been as upset. However, I still think some of the replies from certain vendors would have been posted and in that way, I think they actually attacked her.