Post # 1
Here’s my shortened story: I got engaged in December 2011 to my boyfriend of 8 years. We set a date for April 2013, plenty of time away to plan a really nice wedding and to save enough money because we are paying for it ourselves. One of my bridesmaids got engaged July 31st, 2012 to a guy she had only been dating a year. She started planning her wedding immediately and set a date in August 2013, which is a great time frame. Within the first month of being engaged she already chose a venue, a dress and started picking out colors etc.
She came to me yesterday in tears saying she now hates her dress, hates all the decisions she’s made so far, and hates the fact that her wedding has turned into a big ordeal (she said she would’ve rather just done a destination wedding or elopement, but because her family and fiance wanted to invite everyone they’ve ever known, they couldn’t). So she proceeded to tell me that she just wanted to “get this wedding over with” and so she had called her venue to see if she can change the dates. They named multiple dates earlier than august, but of course the “only one that her and her fiance could do” would be in April… the weekend after my wedding. I don’t know why it bothers me so much, but it does. Would it bother you? What would you do? I need advice!
Post # 3
Does it bother you that maybe she will no longer be able to attend your wedding or that you may have to come home from your honeymoon early? I think that is what would bother me.
I don’t think there is anything more you can do other than wait and see what happens. Maybe this is just a phase and she actually won’t be changing her date.
Post # 4
We also have friends getting married the weekend after us. it doesn’t bother me at all I just really want to be able to go since they’re coming to ours, but we also want a longer honeymoon so we are trying to figure out what to do. There’s nothing you can do. you either go or you don’t.
Post # 5
I would be concerned about her planning a wedding in a shorter time period as she is already stressing about this with a much longer time period. If she changes the date- don’t be upset but let her know that you anticipated taking some time after the wedding for yourselves and you may not be able to make her wedding. Life goes on!
Post # 6
Whether it’s a week later, a month later, or a year later, it doesn’t really make a difference to me. People get married all the time. As long as you can make it to each others’ weddings, I don’t really see a problem!
Post # 7
Thanks everyone! and Madame, you are right, it shouldn’t be a problem!