Post # 1
Hi. i am going to send out my invitations soon, and am wondering if anyone knows how to address an envelope for a women whose husband passed away (both of my fiance’s grandmothers have lost their husbands). Is it still Mrs. X or do I change it to Ms. X?? I am thinking its still Mrs. but I am unsure. Thanks!
Post # 3
It is still Mrs. The etiquette books would have you still address it as Mrs. John Smith (still using the husband’s name). Interestingly enough, I have four widows on my guest list, and none of them prefer that style of address – they use their first name (Mrs. Jane Smith). I believe that you would use Ms. for a divorcee, for an unmarried woman too old to be addressed as Miss, and for a married woman who has not taken her husband’s name.
Post # 4
I have two aunts that are widows. They were each married for years. I mean like 40-50 years! I know they preferred to be Mrs. Robert Soandso and Mrs. Carlos Lastname. According to proper etiquette, then they are still Mrs. Hisname Lastname. Unless they have started "dating" again- I would just follow that!
Post # 6
Very true on all this… also, I wanted to add that Miss is only appropriate for girls under 18. All other unmarried women are Ms. I found this disappointing as I always referred to myself as a Miss! Haha.