(Closed) Question about addressing envelopes to widows?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2293 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

It is still Mrs.  The etiquette books would have you still address it as Mrs. John Smith (still using the husband’s name).  Interestingly enough, I have four widows on my guest list, and none of them prefer that style of address – they use their first name (Mrs. Jane Smith).  I believe that you would use Ms. for a divorcee, for an unmarried woman too old to be addressed as Miss, and for a married woman who has not taken her husband’s name.

Post # 4
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

I have two aunts that are widows. They were each married for years. I mean like 40-50 years! I know they preferred to be Mrs. Robert Soandso and Mrs. Carlos Lastname. According to proper etiquette,  then they are still Mrs. Hisname Lastname. Unless they have started "dating" again- I would just follow that!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Very true on all this… also, I wanted to add that Miss is only appropriate for girls under 18. All other unmarried women are Ms. I found this disappointing as I always referred to myself as a Miss! Haha.

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