Post # 1
I’m curious on what is standard as far as how much to spend on bridesmaid gifts, and do you get nicer gifts if they did a lot to help with the wedding.
I’m curious because my girls have been super helpful with things. We’re doing a lot ourselves to say money and they found a makeup artist and someone both to serve alcohol and food at really good rates. They also threw an awesome bridal shower for me and have gone to a lot of wedding stuff with me such as going to look at flowers.
Post # 3
I really wouldn’t say that there’s a standard, a gift is normally given within what you can afford.
If you feel that they went above and beyond the normal expectations of a bridesmaid [which is basically putting on the dress, looking pretty and showing up], then yes I would give them something extra special.
I don’t expect my girls to do much, nor have they done much on their own – one is busy with high school and the other is a full mom & employee. I totally understand that they just don’t have time to help! And that’s okay. I’m also paying for their dresses, hair, makeup, shoes, & jewelry so they don’t worry about a thing.
Because I’m taking care everything, I won’t be getting them an over-the-top gift, probably each a $50 gift card to one of their favorite stores, and some little odds and ends [necklace, bracelets, nail polish].
Post # 3
I agree with ^^ Do you want you can afford. Maybe try to make each to fit each personally. I am making baskets with home made beauty products and getting a caterer breakfast in the morning!
Post # 4
Haha, my bridesmaids’ gifts started out being small. I ordered them all personalized necklaces with their initials. Then I got the necklaces and thought they looked cheap so I got them personalized totes to put their things in that they would need the day of. Then I thought “well, I would really love to make them jewelry boxes to put the necklaces in”. I do wood staining when I’m stressed out so obviously planning the wedding…..I’ve stained a lot of wood LOL. THEN my FMIL showed me these really cute shawl/scarf things that she could knit (she knits like I wood stain) for the girls and me to wear over our dresses after pics when it gets cold (northern Michigan in late August/early Sept).
So, total? I’ve probably spent about $50 on each bridesmaid (I have 3 girls). I know my girls will really love the thought behind the homemade gifts 🙂
Post # 5
Well, it depends on what you count. I got them robes (really nice and relatively cheap off etsy-seller is RobesAndKaftans) but I’m not counting that as a gift since it’s more for my pics. I’m also getting them a necklace/earring set that I may or may not ask them to wear for the wedding ($34 each) and then I’m hand painting wine glasses for them (about $8 each due to cost of paint).
Post # 7
I have an idea of what I want to get my wedding party, but may end up getting each girl (I only have 2) one different thing, and then similar smaller things.
I did ask my sister (MOH), if she preferred getting a wristlet/make up bag, or these other bags that could be used for other stuff. She had no preference, but she’s one who already has a lot of wristlet/makeup bags and would probably like the latter better. My other BM (FSIL) doesn’t have a lot of wristlets/makeup bags so I think that would be fun. I just want them to like that, so I may poll my FSIL as well. It’ll be a surpsie no matter what. Either choice, I’d plan on buying some smaller trinkets to put in them.
My FI is planning on buying his brother (BM) and BIL (GM) stuff related to hunting that they can use, but not the same thing.
I’ve been a BM for one friend and she got us all a tote with our names on it, and then a necklace and earrings to wear during the wedding, and a Starbucks GC. It’s the thought that counts, and whatever you can spend – it’ll be fine!
Post # 8
I have 3 bridesmaids, a sister/cousin/childhood best friend, so I feel like I can spend a little more on them. They’ve paid for their dresses/shoes/jewelry, as their gift to us, but all are students and so I paid all their alterations. I found some fun fuzzy bath robes at Costco in a cute coral colour for 13$ each, so we’ll be running around having a little bathrobe toga party in those on the morning of, and I’m thinking of purchasing them Coach wristlets for around 70$ a piece. They’re all very particular girls, none are very glitzy/glam and each is incredibly unique. My hair dresser is also a family friend, who is doing my hair/the girls’ hair as a gift, and we’re paying her hotel the night of the wedding.
The Coach wristlet would be a nude colour, and would match their shoes (or at least close enough) for the wedding, and would have space for phone/lipstick/tampons/bandaids/whatever they need for the day. It could also be used later, as none of these girls really carry purses normally and are always on the go, so I figure they can use them again without them looking too wedding-y 🙂
I’m not sure past that point though.