Post # 1
My SO’s brother is getting married at the end of June and I’m excited to attend and already shopping for what to wear 🙂 I’ve only found ONE dress that I love so far (this is a first – usually I can find tons of dresses but have no events to wear them to!).
It’s a long, patterned BCBG gown and it’s perfect for me, but… it’s in their wedding colors. Navy and aqua. I don’t know what colors the bridesmaids will be wearing, and this couldn’t really be mistaken as a bridesmaid dress, but is it a no-no to wear it if I know those are her colors?
Do you think I should ask the bride what she thinks? We’re not that close and I don’t want to weird her out…
My mother says to find another dress, but my best friend thinks I should go for it.
Here’s a picture of the dress in question… [attachment=174558,12111]
Post # 3
I love it, but you should ask the bride what her bridesmaid dresses look like nonchalantly to see if it would clash… but I’m sure you’ll be fine. Unless they are the same, you’ll look great.
Post # 4
I really like it. I would have voted to just get it, but it would probably be best for family harmony (and a nice gesture to your FSIL) for you to ask her what she thinks.
Post # 5
I would go ahead and ask the bride. I think it would be awesome if guests knew my colors and showed up in them, but who knows what another girl might think.
Post # 7
I think it’s beautiful! I would go for it without asking. If you didn’t know her wedding colors, you would wear it, right? If so, that means it’s appropriate to wear. I have never heard where the wedding colors are off-limits to wedding guests. This could quickly escalate to silliness! Imagine, the bride says her colors are red, blue, yellow, and green. Does that mean you can’t wear anything with those colors in them? If anything, you will look awesome in the photos because your dress will go with everything!
Post # 8
thanks chelsea… that is a good way to think about it!
Post # 9
Thats a toughie- I’d ask the bride depending on how close you are. Otherwise it’s a gorgeous dress!
Post # 10
If you love the dress go for it. If you are curious about the BMs you can maybe ask your brother, but I wouldn’t worry too much about it. I think chelseamorning said it perfectly.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
I love it! I wouldn’t even think about someone’s wedding colors when picking my own (guest) dress. I wouldn’t wear white, of course… but other than that, I don’t think it matters. I know I have worn a brown dress to a wedding for a friend who’s colors were brown and red… and the BMs were wearing brown dresses too. I didn’t think anything of it, and I don’t think anyone else did either. If anything, you’ll probably end up in lots of photos ’cause you "match" the theme. LOL.
Post # 12
I think it’s totally cute, but I agree with rosychick to just ask the bride to keep family harmony! You won’t want her to be offended and get off on the wrong foot with you if she’s going to be your FSIL! Plus, she’ll be super flattered that you’re taking an interest in her wedding details!
Post # 13
I’d think about how you’ll feel if is similar to the BMs that people point it out all night. I’ve been to two weddings now where people kept saying things like "hey, i like your dress, it kind of matches the ones the bridesmaids are wearing." For me, it got old fast, especially because it had NEVER occurred to me even though I knew what their dresses were. In any event, I’d guess you’ll be safe.
Post # 14
The only colors I would avoid would be white/white-ish, and black for a lower key daytime wedding. Unless you show up in the same dress as the BMs, I don’t think you have a problem!
Post # 15
I think it’s fine, but you can still run it by the bride. She’ll probably be happy to hear that you’re giving it some forethought. And like others have mentioned, how often do you know the wedding colors?
Post # 16
Absolutely love the dress!! You have to wear it!