Question about flower girl

posted 3 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Rockinrobin5775:  I don’t know that you have many options.

You can either not be go-with-flow- if that’s your preference, and simply ask that the child not be in the wedding because you aren’t OK with the girls being in different dresses 

OR

You can decide that it’s not the end of the world if the 3rd girl is in another dress- little girls are adorable no matter

OR 

You can decide to offer to pay for the girls to all wear a different dress.  You can’t ask the first two moms to pay for a second dress.

 

I’m not really sure what other options there are hun!

I do understand that it IS the mom’s fault for not ordering the dress when she should have- that’s why if it was important to me, I would have either ordered the dresses for the girls and had the mom’s pay me back (that’s not rude- it’s taking care of business)- or I would have paid for them if budget allowed – OR I would have at least done follow up about the dresses being ordered months ago.  It’s what I have done with both our BMs (who all picked thier own dress anyway)- and our GMs for tuxes being fit.  We weren’t annoying or naggy about it, but we know that life is hectic and OUR wedding isn’t the first thing on everyone’s mind- so we did a friendly reminder/check in to make sure everything was taken care of!!

Post # 4
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178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I really feel that your best option here is to just move on, find another dress, and realize that they are 3 year old girls that certainly do not have to match. 

Post # 5
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1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I don’t know the whole situation, but the other two mothers did their part, if this one didn’t I’d say oh well guess that little girl can’t be in the wedding. You did everything you could that woman screwed it up, not you. It shouldn’t be on you to fix it.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Rockinrobin5775:  One thing you *might* want to take into consideration- is that yes, while the mother didn’t meet her responsibility- you are also punishing the little girl, who I would guess has been informed she is going to be in a wedding.

You are punishing the little girl for something that she had no control over- and to a degree, I think that’s not fair.  My son was in my sister’s wedding when he was three, and he was told months ahead of time- no, he was not too young to understand that.

Post # 10
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2189 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Personally I would just find cheaper dresses they all can get. Can we see a picture of the flower girl dress? There’s a few bees on here really good at tracking things down.

I have a 3 year old and he totally understands weddings/events/what he’s going to do/be in/etc.
Either way you should still give the girl the doll.

Post # 11
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125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

There is a website called flowergirl dresses for less and there are a ton of dresses, maybe there will be something similar. Not that I’m standing up for the mom,  because you are right, it should have been ordered, but I know I waited till 2 months before my wedding because my stepdaughters are flowergirls and I was concerned if I ordered to early and they’d go through a growth spurt. But try the website, hope it helps, your wedding should be perfect.

Post # 13
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125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Can we see a picture? Maybe we can help search? Glad you found a pattern, that’s a relief. I hope the mom gets it made.

Post # 14
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2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Rockinrobin5775:  I’m not sure why you asked, but I am planning mine right now.  I understand that all of the thoughful things you have done for the flower girls took time, and I understand that having the mom not do what she should have done in a timely matter is frustrating.

 

I will respect that you NEED to have things a certain way.  I just don’t understand it- and was trying to see if you would consider other options.  The theme of the day for anyone should be love and joy, and with that comes acceptance.  As long as my flower girl has a dress that was cohesive to the rest of the group – I wouldn’t sweat it.  Don’t get me wrong- I totally understand the mom is the one who fudged the plans up- which doesn’t look good on her behalf because the other mom’s pulled through.  I’m not saying what the mom did was OK- I just don’t think that in the big picture, it’s worth a fuss and possible hurt feelings, that’s all.

 

Best wishes though!  I hope it all works out 🙂

 

BTW- you wouldn’t be “changing everything” by having a girl in another dress.  It just would be different than you had originally planned 🙂

 

Post # 16
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125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Rockinrobin5775:  OMG cute…I’ll look too, you just never know.

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