Post # 1
Hey just curious if anyone knows. My fiance has a hyphenated last name because his parents were never married and they both wanted him to have their last name. When we get married do i I plan to change my name. Usually he goes by just the first part of the hypenated last name for example his last name could be smith-jones he just goes by smith unless its legal then he does the whole hyphenated name. Do I have to take the whole hyphenated last name or can i just take for example smith?
Post # 3
You can take whatever you want. I would suggest that you talk with your husband about this and see how he feels. You could change your last name to Sunflower Tree Hugger if you wanted, completely up to you! 🙂
Post # 4
On the European continent, the usual way they do it is this:
Mr Jones married Mrs Smith. Their child is Jimmy Jones-Smith (father’s name, then mother’s name).
When Jimmy Jones-Smith has children with Jane Huntingdon-Farthing, their children are then called Jones-Huntingdon (the mothers’ names of the grandparents’ generations are dropped).
So if you wanted to do this, I would (sort of) follow this convention and call yourself by your last name, then his father’s last name.
If you wanted to change your name entirely, then you can call yourself whatever you like! I would be tempted to use the full, hyphenated name if I was going down that route, however. I think it could possibly be a little confusing when you have Mrs Jones married to Mr Smith-Jones. People would wonder what culture you were from, and you might get some odd questions. But if that’s OK with you… just be happy!
Post # 5
@busybride215: I agree with pp’s speak to hubby to be and see what he thinks I agree though you should take the whole name and socially just go by whatever he does.
Post # 6
In the U.S., this may be a bit more complicated when it comes to legally changing your name if his legal name is different from the name you want to change yours to. I’m in the process of changing my name right now, and I can tell you that the first step is changing your name with the Social Security Administration. You’ll have to give them a certified copy of your marriage license/certificate, which will have your new husband’s full legal name. If you’re changing your name to something other than his legal name, they may not accept the name change application. You may have to submit something else, like a court order to change your name to a different last name than his. So it might be easiest to change your legal last name to his full (hyphenated) legal last name, but use whatever last name you prefer in social situations. Hope that isn’t too confusing. Good luck!
Post # 7
@spring-bride: the marriage license would be enough to change your name becuase on it, it has your madien name and then your marrid name and the reason for the name change is the marriage. It does not necessarily have to match your husbands for the marriage certifcate to be valid for a name change.
Rachel631 that sounds so confusing to me!!
Post # 8
@shootznladrz89: That’s not my understanding of how it works in many, if not most, states. If you want to change your name to a name other than your husband’s legal name, then you usually need a court order (upon a petition for name change). The marriage presumption only applies if you are changing your name to your husband’s legal name upon marriage. You can still change your name to something else, of course, but then the certified marriage license/certificate alone is not enough. States do this to avoid fraudulent name changes. I would suggest the original poster check the requirements in her state.