Question about multiple bridal showers! Advice needed :)

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I’m having multiple showers…this is what we’re doing, hopefully it helps.

Sister-in-Law is throwing me a shower for their side of the family (in two weeks), but also asked who I wanted to invite in addition…so most invites are all for FI’s side of the family, I added in wives of FI’s friends/groomsmen who I also consider to be friends of mine, my mother will come and two of my friends are invited since my other shower isn’t planned yet and they don’t know if they can make it without knowing the date.

MOH is throwing me a shower (but nothing planned yet since she only just realized showers should be planned now – she thought they were the week  before the wedding.). She is inviting all my side of the family, bridal party, and friends. We will also invite FI’s mother and sister but tell them they’re not to bring a gift since they would have been at the other shower too.

So I guess I would limit the shower thrown by the Aunt to just that side of the family and maybe some of your close relatives/friends…like your Mom/Sister/MOH just so they can get to know everyone, but let them know they do not need to get you an additional gift.

Post # 4
1190 posts
Bumble bee

@MissGatitas:  My sister had this problem. She had two bridal showers, one for her side of the family, and one on SO’s side of the family. My mother was invited to the other bridal shower, as well as a few select members of our family, and the bridal party. Sorry, this is kind of confusing, let me break it down:

Shower #1: FI’s family, FI’s friends, MIL, mom, a few family members of our family and the bridal party

Shower #2: our family and friends, MIL, the bridal party, and a few members of FI’s family.

It was made very clear verbally that those attending both bridal showers did not need to bring gifts to both bridal showers.

It helped cut down on the # of people, because a combined bridal shower would’ve involved over 80 women that wanted to come. Her guest list was 250, and 230 showed up! Tongue Out

Post # 5
6951 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@MissGatitas: I would let her throw one with just her side of the family. It’s looking like I’m going to end up having three showers and the only people invited to multiple would be my bridesmaids (including my only sister). I don’t expect them to come to more than one, but am giving them the option if they want to because most of them know people at each one. 

Post # 6
789 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I had a few different showers, but all were in different states.  I think the only people you should invite to more than one are immediate family (like mom, sister, etc.).  Otherwise people may become resentful.  If his side throws you a shower, just have it be a small one with their family/friends, and don’t add anyone to the guest list.  

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