Post # 1
Ok I just started to think about this last night and realized I have NO IDEA what the answer is. FI and I are being married by his Sunday school teacher he grew pu with, she is an ordained minister so it is “recognized by God” but I am more concerned about the legality side of things haha. Obviously we have to sign a marriage license but did you do that before, during, or after the wedding? Are we supposed to go to the courthouse before the day and get legally married? If anyone has information on the legality side I would really appreciate it, I am clueless!
Post # 3
@Lbward6: From the way I understand it (and I’m in Illinois so it could be diff where you are), we have to go get the marriage license no more than 60 days prior to the wedding and have to bring it to the church the night of the rehearsal for the Pastor to hold onto. I’m not sure when it’s actually signed (assuming not until the next day after the ceremony?).
Post # 4
@Lbward6: You need a marriage license first (from the courthouse). I live in NJ and mine required 72 hours processing time before it could be legalized. I don’t know if that time frame is standard everywhere so you’d have to contact your local department of vital statistics. Find out if your officiant is legally ordained. If so, the marriage license becomes a marriage certificate when she signs it after/during the ceremony.
Post # 5
Check your state’s laws because it will vary. Where I live, you have to obtain a license first and give it to the officiant. The officiant usually signs it after the ceremony, and after that you just need to file it with the county offices. The license is not legit until the officiant signs it In our state, I think any ordained minister can legally sign the license.
Post # 6
Every state is different. Check your states laws.
Post # 7
@Aquaria: great, ceremony is in NJ so that is very helpful!
Post # 8
I’ll be getting married in NY so we’re signing our license right after our ceremony, I think I’m going to include it in our ceremony though. Then the officiator files the license at the city clerk and then you get mailed an official marriage certificate. There is a 24 hour window before we can sign.
Post # 9
Every state is different so check online or at your local courthouse.
In PA, both the bride and groom have to appear in person at the county courthouse 30 – 90 days before the wedding.
They do the paperwork, then you get the license in a week or so. Then you give that license to your officiant to file with the county.