Question about others' excitement about wedding–am I a Bridezilla?

posted 1 year ago in Reception
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Honey bee

@trustingbride:  I don’t think you’re being a bridezilla, but no one is going to be as excited about your wedding as you are.

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Bee Keeper

No one is wrong here, you be excited, it’s exciting!  Just know that there’s only so much any one person can take, and no matter the subject, sooner or later we all glaze over because c’mon….conversations should be about both of the people having it….

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Busy bee

@trustingbride:  To be honest people can act however they want. They shouldn’t be acting a certain way, that may just not be them! Remember, you are the person that cares the most about your wedding!

For example, a friend of mine got married last year and it was all she talked about ever. Just non-stop. Like she wouldn’t  care what was going on in other people’s lives, just about her own wedding. It was like she expected everyone to be so excited about every little detail and honestly… I don’t really care about any of that. I was excited she was getting married and excited to be going to her wedding, but beyond that? Don’t care. I have a life too and so does everybody else. But that’s just me.

My wedding is coming up this summer and I barely talk about it to anyone. For me, it’s because I would rather people be surprised about the details and I don’t expect anyone to actually care about them except for me and my FI! I’m absolutely stoked about my wedding but I’m keeping a lot of it to myself because I don’t want to be the centre of attention. Lots of exciting things are happening in my friends lives and my getting married shouldn’t overshadow their events and achievements!

Let them act how they do and be excited for yourself! Don’t worry about their reactions and don’t have expectations :)

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Bee Keeper

I don’t think you’re being a bridezilla but I think you may have unrealistic expectations. Nobody is going to be as excited about your wedding as you are. Don’t fault your friends and family for this. Try to limit your scope about what you talk to them about. If you try to talk about every little detail then they’re going to get bored. But if you only talk about the one or two things you’re currently working on are are really excited about or really have questions about, then you’re more likely to get good responses from them. Then spend some time talking about their stuff or non-wedding related stuff. We know you’re excited about your wedding right now but what is your friend excited about right now? You need to talk about that too. And you can always come to the bee where you can be surrounded by other people with crazy wedding brain!

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Helper bee

Also, if you talk about it nonstop, it can get really boring for others (eyes glazing over). Make sure to still hang out with your friends and not talk about wedding stuff. I try to keep most of my wedding talk until I can hang out with a friend who is also planning a wedding. 

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