My FI and I thought that doing pie instead of cake would be a great idea. Neither of us likes cake, and even though they are pretty, we wanted to do something different and fun. Of course, my mother HATES the idea (she started yelling, actually) and is a total traditionalist. She backed down and was like "Well if you can stay in budget..." but she kept talking about how it won't feed enough people and it will be messy, etc.
Have any of you bees ever done pie instead of cake? I'm definitely open to doing other things, like a simple dessert table with pastries and tartes (my mom actually liked that idea). But I think pie would be fun... I'm getting married in July and a nice berry pie with ice cream sounds like heaven.
we just decided on no wedding cake. But we are having other types of "cake"
@MissKatelyn: H and I both don't like cake, we like pie. When we told my dad that we wanted pie and not a wedding cake he had a similar reaction to your mom. He said that there had to be a cake. And since he was paying, there would be a cake.
What I did was got a bunch of adorable mini berry pies from the local Amish Market, they were amazing. Then we had our gorgeous yummy cake as well. People could then have cake and pie, or choose one. We did have a lot of extra pie though! Which was fine with us, we froze it, and still have some left today. :)
I don't know if you have the money to do both. I actually paid for the pies (and a lot of other random stuff that I didn't want to "ask" my dad about b/c I knew he would think it was unreasonable), but I am in a situation financially where I can do that. The pies were 75 cents each, since they gave us a discount because we bought 100 of them. It also helped that we ordered them from an Amish Market and not a boutique bakery type place. It worked out well, good luck!
@rimeswithpurple: We aren't planning on doing pie at all, if we can help it. We'd like to just do pie. But I love the idea of doing mini-pies and handing them out to each person. That sounds really yummy. I'm not sure if we can find something like that out in Oregon where we're getting married, but it's worth thinking about!
Maybe if you better explain to your mom that cake is no longer a must-have at weddings, and that wedding desserts these days tend to be suited to the couple (candy bars, cake buffets instead of a big tiered cake, pie, cookie table, etc)? This might just be a generational thing, like "it's not a wedding without cake"! Well, it is a wedding without cake, and ohmygod I would be SO jazzed to be a guest at your berry-pie wedding! I think it might help if you explained that this isn't such a crazy idea in the wedding world, and if you explain just how important it is for you to not have cake. I mean, if the bride and groom don't like cake, there should be no cake!
We are doing pies and no cake for our wedding and everyone is really excited about it! Our bakery has a tiered pie stand so that their wedding couples could arrange pies in a more traditional way if they wanted. We aren't using it, but I've seen pie tables look just as elegant as cakes. Also, you can still do a "pie cutting." Another thing I'm excited about is that guests can choose which flavor they'd like since we're having it all set out, buffet-style. However, I've been to a wedding where the pie was served just after the meal, and what a great surprise. I say, it's your wedding. Do pie!
I went to a wedding with pie rather than cake, and no one seemed to mind at all. In fact, people liked the variety of it!
Were going to do just pie with some other desserts like brownies and cookies as well. My questions is for anyone who has gone the pie route, how many did you order. I was estimating one piece per person with the other desserts as well but wasnt sure how realistic this is. Any tips? I guess there`s no harm in ordering extra and having leftovers!
re going to do just pie with some other desserts like brownies and cookies as well. My questions is for anyone who has gone the pie route, how many did you order. I was estimating one piece per person with the other desserts as well but wasn
Pies are featured all the time on StyleMePretty and the like and come across as elegant. Plus nearly everyone loves them while not everyone likes cake, but then no matter what you pick, someone won't like it. That said, with pies, you have a ton of flavor choices. Make sure to have enough pies for everyone. Also, have the option of whipped cream if some folks don't want or can't eat ice cream.
If mom doesn't like pie, she doesn't have to eat it or pay for it. Your wedding, your choice.
I LOVE the pie idea!! I wonder though... I bake pies a lot and sometimes when I serve them to guests I have a hard time making the slice look pretty on the plate (sometimes the slice of pie kind of falls apart as I'm serving it, depending on the kind of pie I've baked). For example, I have a really hard time cutting my blueberry pies and having them still look pretty as a slice on a plate... but my pecan pie comes out beautifully. If you're serving a lot of people like that it might be hard (especially if you have inexperienced servers) getting beautiful slices out of the pie and onto the plate every time. I like the idea of mini pies better, because I think they'll look better visually (and how cute would that be to get your very own pie!!!). It's obviously way easier to cut pieces of cake and slap them on a plate, so I guess I also wonder if it would take a lot longer to cut/serve slices of pie as opposed to cake (but I guess that's not really that big of a deal in the long run). As for estimating one slice per guest... if you're offering different flavors of pie people might try more than one slice (I'd be a piggy and try more than one!!).
As long as the pie tastes good, most people don't care if it looks perfect or not on the plate. Many folks do realize that alot of pies tend to fall apart during the cutting but that never stops them from eating it. Keep in mind that individual mini pies (and anything that is served individually) will be more expensive due to the extra labor involved.
Also, they are not messy unless people go out of their way to spill the pies on themselves. Other foods are alot messier than that. Plus there will be napkins available so this is not an issue.
Oh, trust me.. I don't care what the slice of pie looks like as much as what it tastes like!!! But as a bride the perfectionist in me would be bothered if someone's dessert looked like a pile of smashed up pie on a plate.
I like the dessert table idea. What about just having one small cake for cutting. It can be the centerpiece to the dessert table.
Any dessert can be cut and shared by the couple. If there is no other cake served, then it isn't fair to the guests for there to be a mini cake just for the couple. Everyone should be treated equally and the couple is not to be considered 'elite" and thus able to have different food or drink than their guests because it is rude.
I totally disagree. The couple IS special! They're the bride and groom afterall!!! I would never feel put off at a wedding if the bride and groom shared something special that wasn't available for all. It's their day, not mine!
@Selene221: I don't think the idea is that the bride and groom would get cake and everyone else would get subpar dessert - I think the idea is that there would be an assortment of amazing desserts, including the small cake that would be cut. If people wanted cake, they could cut a slice of cake (or the rest would be cut up and they could take a piece) - first come, first serve, like the rest of the assorted desserts.
ETA: To the OP: I don't get how it would be messy - your venue will cut and plate it, just like they would cake. Is your mom worried people are going to spill?
If you want pie then serve it and make sure there is enough to go around. Have cool whip for those who don't want ice cream. None of that is any messier than anything else, and tons of folks who don't like cake will love you if you serve pie or similar desserts. Agree with the pp's who mentioned that the bride and groom should have the same desserts (and other food in general) as their guests since people do justifiably get offended when the couple acts "better than" everyone else and it is rude on the couple's part to do so.
Wow, I totally disagree with people who think that the bride and groom aren't "any better" than the guests. Should the groom not wear a tuxedo if the rest of the guests aren't black tie? What about the bride... should she not have a $3,000 dress on if the rest of the guests are wearing their $80 dresses they got last week at the mall??? It's the bride and groom's WEDDING DAY! Of COURSE they're more important... it's THEIR wedding!!! That's why anyone is there in the first place.. to honor the bride and groom. I think they're totally more special than any of the guests that day. I think people who are offended that the bride and groom are getting too much attention or are feeling too "special" that day might have to check themselves a little. Sounds like a little jealousy issues on the part of some guests.
Thank for all the feedback! I talked to one pie company in Portland, and their pies would be actually LESS than doing a cake... about $3 per person versus $3.50 or more for most cakes.
I think my mom was worried that pies tend to fall apart easier and that berries and whatnot might get on my dress or others' clothes or something, but I think grown-ups should know by now how to eat pie!
I am not planning on having pie for other people and cake for my and my FI. Though I will say, I have seen plenty of cupcake towers with a small cake (similar to the photo) at the top to provide the bride and groom with something to cut into. I completely agree that the bride and groom are special, and if necessary can have something special to eat or drink. I don't think it should be the entire menu (completely different food, etc.) but I think *one* item could be reserved for the bride and groom. I'm not really sure why anyone would think the bride and groom aren't supposed to be considered "elite." If they weren't, the entire bridal gown industry would be out the window!!
I see nothing wrong with having a dessert of your choice. I wanted to do tiramisu- it's my favorite, but FH insisted on cake. That's only mildly annoying, since it was the groom after all. :)
I love pie, delicious fruit pies with vanilla ice cream in the summer is seriously an amazing thing. Go with what feels right and let everyone get over it.
We're having GROOM'S PIES! FI <3s pie. This is great, because now I get my way with the cake. woo!
If she's worried about it being messy what about having pie shooters in shot glasses so then people could even try many types of pies and there wouldn't be the worries of the pies getting messy as you're serving them. Then if you wanted to have a small cake to satisfy your mother you could do that too.
20 pies were cheaper than 1 cake for me. We are having a "cutting cake" because I thought my mom was going to cry when I told her we were doing pies.
I don't think anyone will care that we are having cake. I told my little cousins that they can have cake if they want to, since I think the only people who will be really be upset about not getting cake are those under the age of 12!
@guitargirl ... could you find a place that does tiramisu flavored cake or mousse?
We are also getting 20 pies and it is cheaper than 1 cake to serve our 160 guests. The pies are normally cut into 8 slices, but the baker said she'd do 10 if we wanted and that way people can try more than one type of pie. She also suggested having fewer choices (maybe 3, as opposed to 6) because people get overwhelmed when they have to make decisions.
Yay for pie weddings!
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