Question about Pies vs. Cake

posted 4 years ago in Food
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Sugar bee

we just decided on no wedding cake. But we are having other types of ”cake”

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Newbee

@MissKatelyn: H and I both don’t like cake, we like pie. When we told my dad that we wanted pie and not a wedding cake he had a similar reaction to your mom. He said that there had to be a cake. And since he was paying, there would be a cake.

What I did was got a bunch of adorable mini berry pies from the local Amish Market, they were amazing. Then we had our gorgeous yummy cake as well. People could then have cake and pie, or choose one. We did have a lot of extra pie though! Which was fine with us, we froze it, and still have some left today. :)

I don’t know if you have the money to do both. I actually paid for the pies (and a lot of other random stuff that I didn’t want to “ask” my dad about b/c I knew he would think it was unreasonable), but I am in a situation financially where I can do that. The pies were 75 cents each, since they gave us a discount because we bought 100 of them. It also helped that we ordered them from an Amish Market and not a boutique bakery type place. It worked out well, good luck!

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Busy bee

Maybe if you better explain to your mom that cake is no longer a must-have at weddings, and that wedding desserts these days tend to be suited to the couple (candy bars, cake buffets instead of a big tiered cake, pie, cookie table, etc)?  This might just be a generational thing, like “it’s not a wedding without cake”!  Well, it is a wedding without cake, and ohmygod I would be SO jazzed to be a guest at your berry-pie wedding!  I think it might help if you explained that this isn’t such a crazy idea in the wedding world, and if you explain just how important it is for you to not have cake.  I mean, if the bride and groom don’t like cake, there should be no cake!

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Blushing bee

We are doing pies and no cake for our wedding and everyone is really excited about it! Our bakery has a tiered pie stand so that their wedding couples could arrange pies in a more traditional way if they wanted. We aren’t using it, but I’ve seen pie tables look just as elegant as cakes. Also, you can still do a “pie cutting.” Another thing I’m excited about is that guests can choose which flavor they’d like since we’re having it all set out, buffet-style. However, I’ve been to a wedding where the pie was served just after the meal, and what a great surprise. I say, it’s your wedding. Do pie!

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Blushing bee

I went to a wedding with pie rather than cake, and no one seemed to mind at all.  In fact, people liked the variety of it!

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Newbee

Were going to do just pie  with some other desserts like brownies and cookies as well. My questions is for anyone who has gone the pie route, how many did you order. I was estimating  one piece per person with the other desserts as well but wasnt sure how realistic this is. Any tips? I guess there`s no harm in ordering extra and having leftovers!

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Bumble bee

Pies are featured all the time on StyleMePretty and the like and come across as elegant. Plus nearly everyone loves them while not everyone likes cake, but then no matter what you pick, someone won’t like it. That said, with pies, you have a ton of flavor choices. Make sure to have enough pies for everyone. Also, have the option of whipped cream if some folks don’t want or can’t eat ice cream.

If mom doesn’t like pie, she doesn’t have to eat it or pay for it. Your wedding, your choice.

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Helper bee

I LOVE the pie idea!!  I wonder though… I bake pies a lot and sometimes when I serve them to guests I have a hard time making the slice look pretty on the plate (sometimes the slice of pie kind of falls apart as I’m serving it, depending on the kind of pie I’ve baked).  For example, I have a really hard time cutting my blueberry pies and having them still look pretty as a slice on a plate… but my pecan pie comes out beautifully.  If you’re serving a lot of people like that it might be hard (especially if you have inexperienced servers) getting beautiful slices out of the pie and onto the plate every time.  I like the idea of mini pies better, because I think they’ll look better visually (and how cute would that be to get your very own pie!!!).  It’s obviously way easier to cut pieces of cake and slap them on a plate, so I guess I also wonder if it would take a lot longer to cut/serve slices of pie as opposed to cake (but I guess that’s not really that big of a deal in the long run).  As for estimating one slice per guest… if you’re offering different flavors of pie people might try more than one slice (I’d be a piggy and try more than one!!).

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Bumble bee

As long as the pie tastes good, most people don’t care if it looks perfect or not on the plate. Many folks do realize that alot of pies tend to fall apart during the cutting but that never stops them from eating it. Keep in mind that individual mini pies (and anything that is served individually) will be more expensive due to the extra labor involved.

Also, they are not messy unless people go out of their way to spill the pies on themselves. Other foods are alot messier than that. Plus there will be napkins available so this is not an issue.

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Helper bee

Oh, trust me.. I don’t care what the slice of pie looks like as much as what it tastes like!!!  But as a bride the perfectionist in me would be bothered if someone’s dessert looked like a pile of smashed up pie on a plate.

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Newbee

I like the dessert table idea.  What about just having one small cake for cutting.  It can be the centerpiece to the dessert table.

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Bumble bee

Any dessert can be cut and shared by the couple. If there is no other cake served, then it isn’t fair to the guests for there to be a mini cake just for the couple. Everyone should be treated equally and the couple is not to be considered ‘elite” and thus able to have different food or drink than their guests because it is rude.

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Helper bee

I totally disagree.  The couple IS special!  They’re the bride and groom afterall!!!  I would never feel put off at a wedding if the bride and groom shared something special that wasn’t available for all.  It’s their day, not mine!

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