(Closed) Question about sending invites…

posted 9 years ago in October 2009
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

I would go around August 23rd. 8 weeks, so 6 weeks to RSVP should be plenty of time.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

yes, 8 weeks is etiquette unless your sending out of the country?

then those people should get 10 weeks.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My wedding is September 12 and  I mailed mine out on July 7th.  This was about 9 1/2 weeks ahead, but we have to have our final guest count 3 weeks in advance and our wedding is going to require travelling for all that are invited.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

like contrarymary said, 8 weeks is usually the standard.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I was debating about this too. 70% of our guest list is traveling from out of state (but none from out of the country). They all got Save the Dates back in January so all are aware of the date and location. A lot of them have already booked plane tickets and hotel rooms too. Our RSVP date is 4 weeks before the wedding (which I know is a lot but our relatives are HUGE procrastinators and will probably forget to send back the RSVPs period, not to mention we need a bit of time to fix the seating chart) so I am thinking about sending out invitations 6-8 weeks prior to that date, just to give everyone time to respond. That date puts me around August 24th or so. I don’t think it matters if you send them out 9-10 weeks in advance of the wedding, any more than that is probably overkill, but anywhere between 6-10 weeks before the wedding is okay in my book. It really depends on when your RSVP date is and how many out of town guests you have. I think around August 14th will be okay for you.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m sending ours 9 weeks in advance with our RSVP date three weeks prior to the wedding. I’m not too concerned with the timing b/c we sent Save the Dates so people who need to book travel already know the date and location.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We’re sending them out ten weeks before.  I realize what etiquette says about the situation, but oh well…every rule was meant to be broken!  I want enough time to track down RSVPs, coordinate with the venue, etc.  If two extra weeks will help me sleep better and be less stressed….then I am all for breaking the rules of etiquette! 🙂

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We have set our RSVP date for October 8th even though we are not getting married until the 31st, because my family is really bad about not responding to RSVP requests and I will need to make sure I have time to call every one. We have to have a final head count at least 2 weeks in advance. We will send out invites around the end of August that should give everyone plently of time to respond, and us plenty of time to contact those that failed to RSVP. We sent out save the dates so family and friends could mark it on their calendars months ago, and some still have not made a decision about weather they will come or not, so I will need plenty of phone call time.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

princess, your family sounds like mine. I know I’m going to have to track down quite a few of them for RSVPs!!! I mean how hard is it to put a pre-addressed and stamped envelope back in the mail? LOL

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Mine will be going out somewhere between August 1st and August 10, for our October 10, based on my impatience level. It’s also an out of town wedding.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Karma007: me too. October 10. Invites going out any day now. I am addressing them as we speak. Short delay with the polar bear RSVP postcard stamp. That was the only option so I had to go to zazzle and get something that matched.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We sent them out 3 mos ahead of time, we did send STDs but nobody seems to have made any reservations.  The rooms they blocked off for us at the wedding area will be released to the general public 2 months before.  So we wanted to make sure and give people a chance again to book those rooms. 🙂  RSVP date is set for 3 weeks before, same reason as many others – we will need time to track down all those folks who couldn’t get back to us!!

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