Post # 1
She is absolutely against the bachelor party, or any party for that point. She says that this is due to stress issues, but almost every other reply she has said something about strippers. I am thinking of working out plans for a dual party.
(My viewpoints on the party)
-Strippers and the bachelor party itself
I don’t want them or need them, and I honestly would walk out of the party if it had them. I chose my best-man because I believe he knows me, and because of this I would expect him to know how I want my party to be, and design around that.
-Possible dual party
I am growing to like this idea more, it kinda works for me as two groups that intertwine with each other through the night. The perfect night with me would have her in it, so why not have that a part of it. we each have a perfect night with our friends, and the next day the perfect compromise, followed by the perfect time alone with each other.
I feel very strongly on having one of them, and I am leaning more towards the dual party right now due to her stress issues, and her enjoying herself more when she can see me, but I don’t know how to convince her, or even talk her into a compromise.
Post # 3
@ihopethisainttaken: The dual party sounds like a great idea! Even in her stressed state, a night out could be just what the doctor ordered to help her unwind. I’ll admit, before my wedding I pondered irrational, unthinkable things that had never phased me before (yes, I also worried about Fiance having strippers at his bachelor party)…and these worries were all a culmination of the stress of planning, and feeling as though I was losing control of the planning (I’m a HUGE Type-A person). This, in essence, happened to make me a bit batty! In hindsight, both my husband and I wished we would have had a joint party. His was a fun weekend out at the lake, and mine was a drunken night of shots and making people sign a huge inflatable penis…haha! I think she’ll appreciate the evening together, just the two of you and close friends. Just explain to her that you want to have a joint party because it will be more fun with her, and not because it will quell her worries.
Post # 4
@gardenroses: I will post with updates, but i will try approaching that way in a day or two so she doesn’t think i am trying to comprimise too much.
(she tends to think that if I approach with a compromise after a fight about the topic)
Post # 5
@ihopethisainttaken: Waiting a day or two is a very good idea, I agree. Hoping everything goes well between the two of you, and that you come back with positive updates!
Post # 6
this seems like more of a trust issue.
why don’t you both have your parties on the same night (keep her mind off the jealousy while shes out) and then you all meet up at the end of the night somewhere?
Post # 7
@ihopethisainttaken: I love the idea of a dual party for you guys! I’ve got the same feelings toward “traditional” bachelor parties as your fiance (mostly because I had an ex Boyfriend or Best Friend who cheated at a buddy’s bachelor party, but that’s another story…) and I know I’d be relieved to hear you were considering a dual party! Have you mentioned it to her yet?