Post # 1
My FMI is wanting to pay for the rehersal dinner I told that would be fine only because I didn’t want to be hurtful and say no, my FI and I are paying for the wedding ourselves and don’t want help. She has been wonderful and very supportive in our full relationship but she is the type of woman who needs to be needed. I know she wants to help but really can’t afford to pay for the dinner, my SIL said I should tell her we want her help but we want to pay for half. What should I do I don’t want to hurt her but I don’t want her spending money she doesn’t have.
Post # 3
Maybe have her pay half on the cheapest wedding expense that you have left.or tell her that the cost of the rehearsal dinner is less than what it is do she won’t pay as much.My Fmil wants to contribute too,but considering that my fiance had to deposit money into her account last month,I told him to tell her that we appreciate the offer but we have it handled.We are just having a small wedding and reception that we can afford to pay for ourselves.You could also solicit her help with the wedding in another way,ask her to help with projects,gatherin g people for the photographer etc.
Post # 4
It sounds like she really wants to be involved. I agree with maybe telling her you’ll make the arrangments for the rehersal and it costs x amount, even if you guys end up paying for more. That way she’ll get to feel like she was helpful and involved. I’m sure its hard for her to want to help, without being in a financial position to do so.
Post # 5
Maybe she is saving up? But do offer her out if you think she can’t afford it.
Post # 6
She does want to be involved, but since I am still in school and working full time I found a venue that does everything…and I mean everything. The only thing I have to worry about is the photographer and flowers. She hasn’t saved and I know that for a fact. I think I will try the telling her it cost X amount that way she gets to help but she isn’t paying alot. Thanks for the advice ladies. 🙂