(Closed) Question about timing

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Do you plan on doing a cocktail hour prior to the reception? I’ve gone to a wedding before, gone back home, and then left again for the reception if I live close to both, otherwise I have gone and done some shopping while I wait. And some guests will mill about after the ceremony talking with family they hadn’t seen in awhile anyways, so it won’t seem like quite as long of a time.

My wedding ceremony started at 3:30, lasted about half an hour, and then the reception started at 6, with about thirty minutes between places. There were already several guests there when I got to the reception area (my husband and I weren’t interested in doing the entrance thing), as well as more who trickled in.

Overall, I think three hours if an okay time, but I wouldn’t stretch it any longer than that!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think that’s too long.  What do your guests plan to do for 3 hours?  The wedding ceremony and reception will take up their entire day.  If I was a guest, and had to leave for 3 hours, it’s not enough time to do anything else without having to get re-ready for the reception.  People will be bored and may not want to come back or would leave early from the reception.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

Are your guests able to arrive at the reception early for drinks and chat? or is there are a good spot nearby for people to go in between that you can suggest to them? Locals will be fine but out of towners might feel like they have nowhere to go!

I thinks its fine to have a wait/rest between events so long as your guests arent waiting in their cars

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think serving some snacks would be a good idea and also making sure that there’s somehwere where the guests can sit down or go to while they wait. 

I went to a wedding where there was about a 2 hour window in between the ceremony and reception while the couple and the BP went to a nearby place to have the photos. The reception venue was just 5 mins away and we were told that there will be cocktails. When we got there, we were put in sort of a holding area with limited seating plus the food ran out quickly. I saw people hanging out in the ladies room because it had a nice lounge area. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would honestly hate a three hour lapse between the wedding and reception. Especially if I didn’t live close enough to go home, and just had to mill around…

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My wedding has a 3 hour gap between too.

At first I was worried about it, but I’ve been to several other weddings similiar. At the end of the day — it’s YOUR wedding. People don’t have to come if it’s too inconvinent!

My wedding is in 10 days, so I can let you know how it goes! 🙂

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Too long.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

A 3-hour gap is too long. I know it may be hard to please everyone but if you are hosting then you need to think about your guests. I would find it a bit rude if someone invited me to their wedding then expected me to sit around 3 hours all dressed up just bc they need to take pictures. That is what a first look and/or a gracious cocktail hour is for. You will run into the issue of people skipping your ceremony. People in my area often skip ceremonies especially the Catholic ones that are usually hours before the reception.

Yes, I could shop or find something to do but I have to do all that while being in a dress and high heels? Not considerate.

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think that’s a little too long as well.  Are you having any out of town guests?  I think it’s a little too much to ask that they figure out a way to occupy themselves for that amount of time.  People typically have an hour for pictures (during the cocktail hour); can you do an hour in between the ceremony & cocktail hour, and then take more pics during the cocktail hour to save them some time?  Your cocktail hour could start at 3, and the reception would start at 4.  Just an idea!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You could try to get some photos done before the ceremony/after you’re all ready, and then do group pictures afterwards if you’re not wanting to see each other before the ceremony. That would help on time between events.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@holister:  I know you’re getting a lot of push-back here. I did too when I posed this question. Everyone has a really valid point. You don’t want to inconvinience your guests. But it is your day. If you have a birthday party, you don’t think about whether people would rather go to a bar or resturant. You get to pick. In my opinion, this is the same. 

I also think the break between the ceremony and reception is somewhat of a regional thing. I’m in the midwest and I’ve been at least 3 weddings that had at least 2 hours between. One had 3 hours.

You get one day! Follow your heart! I’ll follow up and let you know how it goes for us!

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