Post # 1
Are the unity candle and sand pouring (not sure if this is what it’s called) things that have traditionally been part of wedding ceremonies in the US?
I’m not from the US and until very recently the only contact I’d had with US weddings was from watching movies and TV (those never included these two things). Then I went to a wedding in the US last year and saw the sand thing, and here on weddingbee I read about that and the unity candle all the time so I thought I’d ask if this is something new.
Post # 3
I’ve seen unity candles used in weddings for at least 10 years. It’s not new here, but using sand, or other items versus candles is. We’ll be using a unity candle, since our ceremony is indoors. Outdoor weddings have to be creative, because the wind will blow out the candles!
Post # 4
Thanks. But I guess it’s still relatively modern since it’s only been around for 10 years. I guess the movies (at least the ones I’ve seen) haven’t caught on yet.
Post # 5
I think the unity candle tradition is older than 10 years. I remember being very young and going to TONS of weddings and every one of them had a unity candle. That was about 20 years ago. Then again, the weddings I went to where always Catholic weddings…don’t know if that makes a difference.
Post # 6
I’ve never been to a wedding with the sand or candle, so I don’t think that it’s traditional. Our officiant tried so hard to get us to do one of them, but we refused because neither of us like them. Plus, when I think of weddings, I don’t think of that stuff. I think about “I do,” kissing, and walking in.
Post # 7
I have never been to a wedding with sand or the candle either!
Post # 8
we didn’t have either. I thought they were kind of new age-ish and we just stuck with the vows and rings!
Post # 9
I don’t know how long something has to be around to be considered a “tradition.” I know that I had a unity candle at my first wedding in 1988..and even then, it wasn’t considered a “new” thing. I’d certainly seen them before.
Post # 10
To me it kind of seemed like something people do in a non-religious ceremony to fill time so that it’s just not just the vows, but I thought I’d ask to make sure.
Post # 11
We are indoors but we are doing the sand ceremony….exactly like Shaunna said, for us its something to fill space, we are doing a non religious ceremony, will have some readings but we wanted a little more.