Post # 1
Let’s say I wanted to have arranged seating at the dinner. That means I have to know the names of all the individual guests who are coming. What if I invite a family of 5 to dinner, and on the return card, they indicate that only 3 are coming? How will I know who is actually coming?
I was thinking of adding another line for their names, but I’m not sure if people would use them. And according to my FI, if I did that, his relatives (Mexican) would assume it means they can bring “extra” guests than what are explicitly listed on the invitation.
Anyone with some experience in this area who can shed light on this?
Post # 3
Usually people do add a line for names. I had a line for names on mine and people did fill them out.
Post # 4
I had a place on the RSVP card for names and number attending and some didn’t fill in their names (7 out of 240 invitations). But most did write Mr. & Mrs. Smith or Miss. Jane Doe and boyfriend’s name.
Post # 5
Should I have a line for number of guests attending, if I already have them write out everyone’s name?
And is it appropriate to keep a guest list by the door and have an attendant cross off people’s names as they’re entering? And if I don’t, then how will I know if some people “snuck” in who weren’t invited? This is a real concern for me, because my FI claims that his relatives are likely to do just that.
Post # 6
I had my MIL call to ask specifically who was coming so we could do their escort cards. Sometimes i just didn’t know the name of the wife or the substitute they were bringing (one woman said she wanted to bring her 18 year old daughter but i didn’t know her name). It didn’t seem weird at all–i didn’t want to write “john’s guest” ya know?