(Closed) Question for Bees living in NYC/NJ area

posted 5 years ago in New York City
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I know people who do it, but it really depends on exactly where you are talking about.

What part of the city? Manhatten? What part of Manhatten. How far inland is the job? Does public transportation go there or will he have to drive?

 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Yeah, we’re going to need more details. There also might be other places that would be acceptable to you but better for you FI’s commute

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

I don’t have experience with this, but I do work in NYC and commute from Westchester County so I do know about a bit long commutes. 😉 Can you tell us the city where the job would be? That would help me out in terms of what kind of public transportation is available and how difficult the commute might be.

It would also depend on where in NYC you wanted to live. If you lived near a PATH station that would take you into NJ it probably wouldn’t be so bad, but if you are living in the outskirts of Queens or something I’d imagine that would not be a fun commute!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I know people who do it, but not 50 miles.  You want to live somewhere where your mode of transportation is very accessible.  Given it is the reverse commute many people drive.  Then living on the UWS near the WEst Side Highway can be very attractive – super fast to get out of the city.  or living near an express train that goes into penn station (you don’t want to live next to penn station).

Another option is Hoboken.  Its not for us but I have friends who live there and really like it.  Its very close to Manhattan and the Path is fairly good.

also it will depend somewhat on his hours….

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@iammcdibble:  well at 50 miles its going to be a long commute depending where you live in the city.  If he can take public transportation he can work or read on the train (assuming train?) and not be stressed as much and be productive with his time.

I would say you are looking at a minimum of 1 hour, more likely 1.5+ hours each way. AGain, until you look at the specifics its hard. How far from the stops do you live/work. Are there express trains? Or if its a bus, how long will it take in traffic. 

I think living in Northern NJ in some cities would be acceptable to you. Many are just like Manhatten since many of the young people live there and commute into the city or work in Northern NJ. There is a lot of industry there and lots of fun things to do. 

http://nabewise.com/northern-nj/rankings/v19-top-trendy

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@iammcdibble:  I live within the city limits and I work within the city limits (in 2 different boroughs, neither of which are Manhattan) and my commute is an hour and fifteen minutes each way.  So, unless you actually work and live in Manhattan, you can expect a long commute.  And, I cannot imagine where he would park a car in Manhattan.  Unless this job pays a beautiful salary that would cover an apartment and parking for a car.. it’s just usually not feasible. 

Personally, I wouldn’t recommend living in Manhattan unless you have a job in Manhattan.  If you live close enough between Manhattan and his job in NJ, you can go to city whenever you want on the weekends, his commute won’t be terrible, and you’ll probably save a load of money.  Both taxes and rent are cheaper in NJ than they are in NY.  He would get more money in his paycheck, too b/c of the difference in state income tax (you have to pay NY income tax if you live in NY, even if you don’t work in NY).

Just some things for you to consider…

ETA:  Also, you can look up hopstop.com that will help you with public transportation times. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

50 miles is going to be difficult. I personally live 30 miles from my office and it takes me a good hour to an hour, 15 min to get home via public transportation. I think PPs have offered some good advice.

I personally don’t think this is a good idea. Between the commuting times, the cost of living in NY vs NJ and the fact that you won’t really be able to put your car anywhere if you live in Manhattan I would be looking up apartments in NJ right now. 😉

Sorry if that’s not what you wanted to hear…

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

@futuremrsk18:  I actually know many people where one person in the couple works in NJ and it works out great. 

 Living in NJ and living in manhattan are TOTALLY different.  I would personally not want to live in NJ, I love the energy of living in the city, visiting it doesn’t do the same thing for me.  That said I 100% agree that a 50 mile commute is huge and probably not wise and the people I know have much shorter commutes.

BTW a good place to live and park a car is in the Trump towers on the UWS in the 60s.  Parking runs 200-250 there (or did 1-2 years ago) and there is an entry ramp to the west side highway is a block away.  other garages tend to run 600-700 in the city

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Old Stone House in Brookyn

What specifically about NJ do you want to avoid? It seems like a strange sentiment because different areas of the state are very diverse. Depending on the area his job is in, there may be areas in NJ that you would like that are more convenient to commute from than Manhattan – someplaces like Hoboken or West NY are practically in NYC and would shave time and traffic off of your commuute.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Old Stone House in Brookyn

Oh, I forgot to ask – 50mi in which direction? I used to live about 30 miles northwest of New York, which is fairly rural and definitely not for someone who prefers urban areas. Someplace around Princeton would offer more to do.

Post # 16
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Newbee

Edited after further reading.. I HATED the thought of moving to Jersey, and only did it because I really, really love my FI lol. Now I really like it. Most of my friends live in SI, Manhattan, Brooklyn and Queens, but it isn’t hard to see them at all. The only downside is that I miss my family.

I live right near Paramus (with FI). We both commute to NYC, myself for college and him for work. I have no idea why you would want to do the opposite (live in NYC and commute to Jersey) lol. It takes me about 1hr to get to class, sometimes 20 minutes and sometimes 3 hours if it’s really busy at the Lincoln Tunnel. Mind you I’m only 7 miles to the city, give or take. It’s time consuming, and the monetary factor is a big one to consider. As PP have said, Hoboken would be your best bet judging by your post.

Anyway, if you’re determined to not even consider NJ, I don’t think you’ll be happy living in NYC and commuting that far into Jersey. Just my opinion though! Good luck!

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