Question for bees who don't work!

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

How about something about what you do that fills your day? “I’m a hobbyist, I knit, I read fiction” etc?  I’d play it like they were asking more about what you do to see what you’re interested in versus employment. 

Post # 4
3845 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@CarolinaCola:   That I’m a glorified potted plant.  I have yet to meet someone who isn’t too stunned to make a snarky comeback, and one person just about collapsed in laughter.   LOL

Caveat – I do work, from home.  Few people see it as work, even though I put in more hours, seven days a week, than many people who work outside the home!  🙂  

Post # 5
2051 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

TBH I don’t have patience for that kind of snark anymore so I would probably just reply with, “You’re right! It is nice!”

I was out of work for about five months and wasn’t really looking that hard since DH and I were doing fine on his salary. When people asked I would just say “I’m unemployed” or “I’m looking for work” (even though I wasn’t at the very beginning). It was easier to just leave the details out especially if it’s someone we don’t really know (and therefore don’t care to share the details of our finances/personal life with).

Anyways, sorry you are dealing with that OP. I know it’s easier said than done, but as long as it’s working for you and your SO then try to let those nasty comments roll off your back!

Post # 6
204 posts
Helper bee

@CarolinaCola:  I work, but I’d probably go with homemaker (my dream job LOL). I’m sure some other bees have creative job titles for you!

Post # 8
6 posts
  • Wedding: November 2014

Tell the truth and own it! They’re just jealous that they are not in such a fortunate position. 

If they say “it must be nice” agree with them. Respond that you are very grateful for your life and that you appreciate every moment that you dont spend droning away at a desk wishing you were somewhere else! 

Too many people derive their self worth only from paid employment. If you feel valued, if you enjoy your life, then you shouldnt have to feel like you need to ‘make something up to say’.

Caveat – I work in a job I hate with a bully of a boss. Its nothing to aspire to trust me 🙂  



Post # 10
8678 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I say I’m a husband wrangler. 

Post # 12
2075 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@CarolinaCola:  just be honest and say you’re a homemaker. Why do you think it is snarky or offensive when someone says “that must be nice” I’d assume they were either A) being sincere or B) just saying something to being polite. For example a lot of times when people tell me what they do for work I’ll say “that sounds interesting” just as a polite response

Post # 14
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I am an online (full-time) student and community volunteer. To the “must be nice” comments: “It is nice, thank you.” They don’t know everything about you or your life. You don’t have to justify yourself to anyone. We made our decision based on a lot of factors that are not anyone else’s business, and you did too.


Post # 15
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

@CarolinaCola:  I just say I’m a housewife…and most of the time when they say “must be nice” your response should be “yep, it is”…after all, most are probably just jealous that they have to work. I’ve found that it’s really hard for other people to be happy for you if you have what they want. It’s unfortunate but true

Post # 16
3197 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m actually a full-time student in an accelerated (which equals a butt load of work) program.  But I use to ( and sometimes still do) tell people that I’m a kept woman and wink at them.  I guess I do it to get a rise out of them.  At least this way you do not have to worry about their snarky comment since you beat them to the punch.

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