(Closed) Question for Bees with Dress Regret

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 4
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Well I did not have dress regret, I only regretted not taking my time as i bought my dress 14 months out and wish i would of tried on other styles. My mother bought my dress for me and she is the kind of person who was not going to dictate what dress I should wear. She did favor one particular dress, but once she saw how happy I was in my dress she was happy to get it for me. My advice would be to take your time, dont say yes right away to a dress, at the very least sleep on it and come back. If your god parents are very opnionated and will only buy the dress if they like it, then sit down with them and let them know what you like and be on the same page. Dont get the dress just bc they like it and you truly dont. I am sure in the end if your truly love a dress and happy in it, they would buy whatever dress you like. Speak about the budget before even shopping though!!!

Post # 5
8884 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper


1. This site caused my regret LOL I saw the Cinderella 205 dress posted and my jaw dropped. I couldn’t stop thinking about it, I told Darling Husband how bad I felt since my mom had purchased my original dress. Finally a few days later I told my mom, she asked to see a picture and she fell in love. She insisted we find the dress and try it on.

2. My mom purchased my original dress at DB. It was beautiful, I thought I loved it.. until I saw the Cinderella. I think I rushed the first time around and I didn’t need to. She ended up paying for the new dress, even though I said I would.


When you try on THE dress you will know. When they walked out with the Cinderella dress sample I went flush and almost cried and that was just looking at it!

Post # 6
2908 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m having a little bit of dress regret – but hoping that I’ll fall in love with it at my first fitting this week. Basically, I feel like I made the decision to buy it without really thinking it through, and I was more swayed by the fact that everyone who I was shopping with loved it than any of my own actual feelings towards it. It was also the most flattering one I’d tried on… but I only tried on seven or eight dresses. It just doesn’t really fit my “vision” of myself as a bride – it’s really exactly like the beaded, embroidered, cupcake-y bridal gowns I’ve always hated. My mom paid for it, and I had a feeling as soon as we left the store that it wasn’t the right one… but it felt too late to put the brakes on it. And now it’s definitely too late! So I’m just going to suck it up and hope for the best! But definitely, definitely take your time making the decision and don’t let anyone sway you. 

Post # 7
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I had a dress regret….  

My first dress I purchased a dress at Alfred Angelo which was my 5 or 6 shoppes trying on dresses over a course of about two months with no luck.  I kept trying on ball gowns and A Line style dresses then the ladies at Alfred Angelo gave me a mermaid style to try on and I felt “sexy” in it so I think out of frustration/excitement I purchased it; even though there were a couple things I wasn’t crazy about.  First where the embellishments hit my thigh it just didn’t work for me, after I got it back from them I didn’t like it and second it was diamond white and flushed me out.   Everyone said I was crazy because they complimented how great it looked on me when I went and tried on my dress two.

My second dress was a dress that I tagged on Pintrest when I first got engaged and completely forgot about it.  It is a Maggie Sottero and I always thought it was out of my price range so never bothered looking for it.   After I realized I wasn’t 100% happy with dress one I went and found this dress at a boutique, tried it on and started crying I loved it so much.  I explained my situation to the small boutique owner and she offered to sell me the sample dress and I purchased on the spot without hesitation.   When I show people dress two they love it; it’s classy and elegant; it is also ivory which compliments my light skin and orange hair.

With this said:   I purchased and paid for both gowns in full because my mother was unable to do so for me which is absolutely okay with me.   IF my mother had purchased my first gown I would feel terrible and may not have purchased dress two, but knowing I made the decision and have to deal with the financial situation myself I am 100% okay with the decision I made as if my fiancé.   Both dresses were $1,000 each so not terrible.   Good Luck and Congrats!

Post # 8
3372 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I don’t have dress regret as much as dress…greed? Indecision? I loved the first gown I bought (which I selected in consultation with my mother, grandmother and a handful of girlfriends). It’s beautiful, has many elements that I love, and most importantly was a good fit for the climate of our wedding location (destination wedding in Bali). It’s a lace/tulle mermaid gown, very fitted.


BUT I kept wondering what could have been. I always envisioned myself in a ball gown, something that nips in at the waist (I’m very hourglass) with a romantic silhouette. Because we are having multiple ceremonies, plus in Chinese culture it’s common to have multiple dresses in one wedding, I couldn’t get it out of my head that I had an ‘excuse’ to buy more dresses. In the past five months, I have acculumated no less than four dresses for the wedding. Anyway, just last I bought my ‘dream’ gown – a ball gown that has every element I could ever want in a wedding gown (embellishment, hand-painted details, tulle, silk flowers, buttons at the back, romance and whimsy). That’s it. I’ve been browsing all the new collections for spring 2014, and not a hint of dress regret or dress ‘what if’. I’m done. I have my perfect dress.


So, to summarise:


What caused my dress regret? Not going with my gut instinct in the first instance. Everyone kept saying that a ball gown would be too hot, too formal. And you know what, they’re probably right. But the heart wants what the heart wants, and I was not happy until I got my ball gown.

Having said that though, I think excessive amounts of time spent on the Wedding Bee (especially the Dress forum), browsing wedding blogs, Pinterest etc – all of this gives many brides serious cases of dress regret.

Who paid for the original dress? My mum did. And I still intend to wear it, probably for the reception and also for bridal shoots. And, um, I didn’t tell her. She knows I can be very frivolous when it comes to purchases, and she made me swear black and blue that I was certain this was THE DRESS and that I wouldn’t change my mind, before we bought it. I paid for my second (and other) dresses myself, and I will have to find the right moment to introduce her to it…


Post # 9
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh dress regret, I certainly have it but trying to work past it.

What caused it? I have a lot of different theories on this:

1. I chose my dress the very first day that I went shopping. This was because my Fiance pressured me into taking advantage of the 15% discount that was offered at the bridal store if I bought that day. He also flew my mom  up for the weekend especially to go dress shopping so I could have the proper *experience*. Looking back I would have tried on dresses at other shops to get a very clear idea of what I wanted and THEN went to the store with the discount.

2.  I tried on a dress that *I* loved (as in looked in the mirror and gasped and never wanted to take off), but my Mom and Bridesmaid or Best Man only thought was so-so. We spent 20 minutes going over all of the things that were WRONG with the dress and I reached a point where I just wanted to get out of it and try something else. Looking back I would have stuck to my guns and gone with my gut. To make it worse, after shopping I started to look for that first dress online but couldn’t find it (it’s one of those private collection dresses or something…) which makes me think it’s even better than what I remember. Looking back I would have taken pictures of every dress I tried on and compared them to each other before buying.

3.  After I bought the dress I kept looking at dresses and reading other people’s experiences in the buying process. I never had a magical feeling, I never felt like the dress I got was *THE* dress, but it was good enough. I knew I looked okay in it, but aside from the sweetheart neckline it wasn’t what I thought I’d end up with. Everyone kept talking about having this moment, and of LOVING their dresses. I’m just like Eh, it’s a dress. It’ll do.

I bought the dress myself, so in theory I could take it back and buy a new one, but I can’t justify spending that extra money. I’m hoping that after alterations I’ll love the dress, but even if I don’t I think I’ll still be Okay with it.

Post # 10
589 posts
Busy bee

My dress regret was due to several factors.  One was that I just kept thinking I did not try on enough dress.  Then I went to someone else’s wedding who had a dress that is completely different from mine.  it was gorgeous on her and then I started to think that may be I want to wear that style as well (my was organza with no blings while hers had lots of sparkles and tulle on the bottom).  But I think bottom line is I should have tried on MORE dresses before I bought mine.

Post # 11
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I had a hard time finding a dress I really loved. I picked one that was the best of the bunch but I wanted some custom changes. When it came, I decided I didn’t want that dress. So I went shopping again. I paid for both. I was able to sell the first one though which was great. 

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