I don’t have dress regret as much as dress…greed? Indecision? I loved the first gown I bought (which I selected in consultation with my mother, grandmother and a handful of girlfriends). It’s beautiful, has many elements that I love, and most importantly was a good fit for the climate of our wedding location (destination wedding in Bali). It’s a lace/tulle mermaid gown, very fitted.
BUT I kept wondering what could have been. I always envisioned myself in a ball gown, something that nips in at the waist (I’m very hourglass) with a romantic silhouette. Because we are having multiple ceremonies, plus in Chinese culture it’s common to have multiple dresses in one wedding, I couldn’t get it out of my head that I had an ‘excuse’ to buy more dresses. In the past five months, I have acculumated no less than four dresses for the wedding. Anyway, just last I bought my ‘dream’ gown – a ball gown that has every element I could ever want in a wedding gown (embellishment, hand-painted details, tulle, silk flowers, buttons at the back, romance and whimsy). That’s it. I’ve been browsing all the new collections for spring 2014, and not a hint of dress regret or dress ‘what if’. I’m done. I have my perfect dress.
So, to summarise:
What caused my dress regret? Not going with my gut instinct in the first instance. Everyone kept saying that a ball gown would be too hot, too formal. And you know what, they’re probably right. But the heart wants what the heart wants, and I was not happy until I got my ball gown.
Having said that though, I think excessive amounts of time spent on the Wedding Bee (especially the Dress forum), browsing wedding blogs, Pinterest etc – all of this gives many brides serious cases of dress regret.
Who paid for the original dress? My mum did. And I still intend to wear it, probably for the reception and also for bridal shoots. And, um, I didn’t tell her. She knows I can be very frivolous when it comes to purchases, and she made me swear black and blue that I was certain this was THE DRESS and that I wouldn’t change my mind, before we bought it. I paid for my second (and other) dresses myself, and I will have to find the right moment to introduce her to it…