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    simcha    September 2012   new england

    Just wondering about anyone's experience with converting to a new religion...I will be converting soon to Judaism and am worried that I'm going to spend the whole day anxious about what I should be doing rather than just enjoying it!

    For converts to any religion- how did you prepare yourself (mentally, physically, spiritually)?  If you were nervous, how did you calm your nerves?  Did you ultimately feel different right after the conversion or did it take a while for it to "sink in" ? 

    I'm also wondering if you did anything to thank the people involved with your conversion.  I've been thinking a lot about this and I'm not sure a gift is appropriate (plus I would need to get a lot of them) but would just a thank you card/letter be sufficient?  Or is that unnecessary and I should just assume a verbal thank you is enough?  

    For Jewish converts-

    I'm scared of the mikvah and the beit din!  I'm scared of water (never learned how to swim) and there's also a chance I could get my period so what if I can't do the mikvah?? I'm also afraid I'm going to be so nervous talking that I won't make any sense.  I'm afraid my answers are going to come out sounding very insincere.  What questions were you asked?  I'm trying to stay excited more than anything else but my anxiety is nothing new!

     
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    LuckyJuls    May 26, 2012   The World

    I think it's normal to be a little anxious but everyone will be there to support you. If there is a way you can meditate and take a few minutes to yourself before the conversion begins, you can collect yourself and your thoughts.

    I'm sure once you are in the moment you will just be overwhelmed with emotion for what is going on and all thoughts of saying something stupid will go out the window.

    Good luck!

     
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    afpfgirl    June 13, 2011  

    I converted to Judaism almost a year ago. I was so nervous and stressed out in the time leading up to the beit din and mikveh, just like you've mentioned. Honestly, there's no need to be nervous. A Rabbi would never recommend somone to go before the beit din that they weren't already sure was ready. I was asked about my desire to convert and general Judaism questions - holidays, number of mitzvot, etc. Nothing difficult. Really, the beit din are there to be sure that you're converting of your own free will and that you're confident in your decision to convert. I would just say be honest with your answers and there shouldn't be a question about sincerity.

    On the day of the beit din/mikveh, I read a meditation/prayer that was in the Anita Diamant book about conversion. It helped to calm my nerves and really centered my heart and mind on what was going to be happening that day. Not knowing how to swim isn't an issue either - the water doesn't come up high enough that you would need to swim. All you have to know how to do is hold your breath. And about your period - you would just have to reschedule. It would only be a temporary setback though!

    In terms of a gift for the people involved in my conversion...we gave the Rabbi a donation to his organization. I'm sure they would appreciate anything though.

    Ultimately I would just say, try to relax and live in the moment. The mikveh in particular was one of the happiest moments in my life. Actually, thinking about it now makes me start to tear up.

     Mazel Tov! If you have any more questions, let me know!

     

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