Post # 1
Hi Everyone, I am a bit new to this website so please bear with me! 🙂
My Fiance and I are throwing around the idea of having a Friday Wedding in July 2015. My main concern is people having to take time off – we don’t have alot of OOT guests, longest drive would be an hour away (Toronto going to Oakville) and those who are coming from other countries would be flying in a week in advance.
That being said as a Friday bride did you find you had a lower turn out rate?
Post # 2
My wedding is on a Friday this October. As long as you give people plenty of notice, there should be no problem. I sent out save the dates 10 months in advance, just so people could incorporate the wedding into their vacation plans.
You’re never going to please everyone–just do what’s best for you and your fiance. It’s a good way to weed out the people who don’t really want to be there without having to cut people–plus I’ve found that vendors don’t book out as quickly as on a Sat; and I got a great discount on my photographer that way too! 🙂
Post # 3
aussiejenn: well said!
elisabete: I was a Friday bride last year, the PP above makes all very valid Points. Give notice and plan what’s good for you, I also got deep discounts for having it on a friday!
Post # 4
I’m having a Friday wedding this year – we’ve timed it with school half term as we are having a few families and that way they will be able to come with their kids! It also means all our teacher friends will be able to come.
We sent out save the dates about 4 weeks ago now (so 7 months in advance) and we’ve already had a lot of people say they’ve booked their hotel and are looking forward to it. I don’t think we’ll have much fewer ‘yes’ RSVPs than if we had a Saturday wedding, but we’re saving at least £3,000!
My FI’s best friend had his wedding on a Thursday last year – they had an 85% Yes rate, and not a single no show on the day, so I think it’s as much about your friends as the day x
Post # 5
We had a friday wedding last year and it turned out great. Most of our guests were from OOT though, so 90% had to travel. We had our welcome dinner, wedding ceremony, reception and thank you brunch all at the same hotel our guests were staying at to minimize travel for everyone. In fact, most of my guests commented about how they loved the friday evening wedding so that they had saturday or sunday to get home and relax.
Post # 6
Thank you all for your helpful advice and input! I had never really considered a Friday wedding till my fiancee brought it up. Needless to say I am a bit iffy about it mainly because I don’t want it to be an inconvience to those who work…etc. At the same time I agree that if ample notice is given guests have sufficient time to make arrangements.
I think I just need to accept that I won’t be able to make everyone happy regardless of what day the wedding falls on.
Post # 7
What time of day are you having it? We were going to have our wedding on a Friday next year because that is the day that our five year anniversary will fall on. We had decided to have the ceremony late in the evening (7:30 pm) to make it easier on guests who have to work. However, we recently had to change our date to a Saturday because our first venue fell through and our new location only has Friday ceremonies in the morning. We thought a Friday morning would be more of an inconvenience to our guests.
Post # 8
For us, friday is really no different than a saturday would be. All of SO’s family would need to fly in, so they’d need to take time off, and my side of the family are just as likely to have to take a friday off as they would a saturday, as most of us don’t get weekends off.
We are having our ceremony at 4 pm, but if our guests can’t make it until later at the reception, that’s perfectly fine too.
Post # 9
StrawberryRoseCake: We haven’t booked our date yet, we are still throwing around date ideas. We know our venue and what dates are available just deciding is the hard part.
Post # 10
as a guest of a friday wedding, just make sure you put the correct time on the invite.
DH and I got an invitation to a friday wedding with 4:30pm as the time. i took off half a day to get ready while other friends took the whole day. (this part wasn’t the issue).
we arrived at 4pm to have plenty of time to park and get seats at the ceremony.
we are mingling in the lobby and see the groom.
we asked him what he was doing there, the ceremony would be starting soon.
his response: he had plenty of time. ceremony wasn’t starting until 5:30.
they put 4:30 to make sure everyone would get there on time.
needless to say, we were all annoyed.
Post # 11
We are having ours on a Friday and some people can’t make it because their kids are in school, but everyone we wanted to be there is going to be there.
Post # 12
We’re doing a Friday, because we waited too long to book a venue ha. It worked out though, we got a discount on our venue and photographer. We decided to make it an evening event, so it’s eaiser on the people working.
Post # 13
elisabete: I agree with PP who said as long as you give people ample notice, it should be fine. I didn’t have a Friday wedding, but I atteneded one a couple years ago and I was happy for the long weekend. 🙂
Post # 14
We had a Friday wedding and it didn’t affect turnout at all. Obviously we knew that there was the potential for it and would totally have understood if people weren’t able to make it. About half our guests were travelling from Auckland to Melbourne too. It probably helps that we have more annual leave time here than in the US.
Post # 15
Agreed with all the posters. Friday weddings are da bomb. I also heard that in some cultures, Saturday weddings are bad luck 😛
But seriously, ours is a destination wedding, so it made sense to have an evening Friday wedding and then a trip to Disneyland on Saturday, then plenty of travel time on Sunday. It’s working out well so far.
August couldn’t get here quick enough.