Post # 1
FI and I are going back and forth about having children. We hear about how people juggle work and kids, family life etc. It just all sounds so hectic! I really want to have kids though but I’m really scared how we are going to fit it into our busy schedule. We both work full time and commute quit a ways. Can you both work full time without losing your minds or would you recommend going part-time or SAH? How do you do it?? I need encouragement….
Post # 3
When my babies were little, I did not work. I do not know how people do it. But when they were toddlers, I put them in day care and was able to go back to school and then work full time. If it was financially possible, I would say to work PT. I had my kids at a very young age, so I was not in the situation to sit and plan it.
If I were in that situation, I would definitely spend less time working and more time being PRESENT in their lives.
Post # 4
@Carolyn72: That’s what I am afriad of. Missing out on their lives if I put them in daycare. But the extra money is so nice. I’m torn! (I don’t know why I’m stressing out about this, I don’t even have kids yet LOL).
Post # 5
We have 2 kids…a 9 year old and a one and a half year old baby. He works fulltime, and I only work 20 hours a week. It’s hard at first…but you get settled into a routine, and it gets easier. I dont consider my life hard….its actually quite leisurely. I think it would be alot harder if I worked full time, just because my youngest is still so little. But its definitely doable!
Post # 6
Depending on how much you earn, you may find out that it doesn’t pay financially for you to work- part-time or fill time.
If you add all the associated costs- child care, gas, maintenance and wear and tear on your vehicle, wardrobe, and miscellaneous( coffe and lunch etc), sometimes you are better off to stay at home.
I worked full time when my kids were little. I worked nights. They went to day care or school on the days I was sleeping, and I had a live in sitter for the nights I was working.
Post # 7
I worked full-time, and was a single mom for the first couple years. Its hard to explain how you balance it all, but you do! I’m not going to say that it was always easy, and there were some really sleepness nights, but you get through it. I never really felt like I missed out on his life when he was younger because when he wasn’t at daycare, I was with him, and that was just the way it was. Plus, I think daycare is a good thing. It has really helped my son learn how to share and interact with others. Plus, they learn so much at daycare if its a learning center type daycare.