Post # 1
Hey all brides,
So I’ve been engaged for about 9 months. I love my soon to be husband very much, and I can’t wait to marry him and be his wife, he is my dream guy. We have been together for about 8 years. I love everything about him. Well when it came down to the ring, I thought I always wanted a 1 carat princess cut diamond, I thought this was the ideal ring for me, I know it sounds superficial, but whenever I thought wedding, thats what I always had in mine. I agree I shouldn’t have asked for it. Also we never tried rings on together before getting engaged so I didn’t know how anything fit. We’ll he got me around a 3/4 princess carat engagement ring. When i first got it I didn’t really like the look of it on my finger. I also tried changing the setting, from a tiffany style setting to a cathedral, in hopes I would like the fit more. I know I should love anything he gets me. But I just had wished he had picked out something with his style in it as well. I asked him the other day if he didn’t get me a princess what would he would have gotten me, and he said an antique style miner cut, which I thought was totally original and never even heard of them before. I didn’t realize he had this whole plan. Well were not getting married for another 7 months. And I started to look at wedding bands, and I brought up the idea to try to bring this ring back and pick out something together with more of his input. I’m afraid if I get a wedding band to match this ring, then I’ll have to change everything. I think he’s afraid of what people might think if we change the ring and how it will look on him. But I’m concerned that this is the ring I’m wearing for life, it should be comfortable on my finger and something I love to show off and stare at everyday and think of him.
Does this sound totally nuts? do these things happen?
thanks for the tips
Post # 3
This is a pretty common issue actually. My suggestion is just to talk to your Fiance. As for wedding bands matching, you shouldn’t have a problem–there are thousands of websites and if you want a custom made ring, check out etsy alchemy request. You’ll probably get some negative replies from a lot of bees for not completely loving the ring. To be honest, I’m not totally content with my ring but my fiance plans to “upgrade” my cz to another gemstone other than diamond (my own ethical rationality).
Post # 4
I think if the two of you are on the same page about changing the ring and you’d both be happy about the decision then you should do it and don’t worry about what anyone else says. If anything it would reflect really postively on him and you that you were able to reach a decision you’re both happy with!
Make sure you share pics either way – both rings sound so pretty!
Post # 5
I feel like I read a post a day about someone not liking their ring, so you’re not the only one. Just talk to him about it and go to a jewelers together one day. Maybe you’ll find the ring of your dreams, maybe you’ll realize that you love the ring you have now more than you realize.
Post # 6
Definately not alone. My ring is actually a cz sterling silver ring from walmart. It’s what we could afford at the time. We talked bout it and since we know a jewelry maker we decided to have my e-ring custom made along with my wedding band.
As long as you talk to him I’m sure you two can come up with something.
Post # 7
Thanks for all the advice…my only worry now is that when I bring the ring I have in to a jeweler we won’t get the same value for the ring when he bought it….and we’ll end up paying extra….I feel like I got myself into this whole mess for just assuming what I like, and went with the norm
He also mentioned that if I feel the same after the wedding we can look into it then…but I’d rather do it before we pick out our wedding bands….and before we have our wedding, that way for photos it can be the new ring…and I can show it off…and be comfortable
he also feels that I’ll never be happy with the ring, just because I wanted this ring so bad, and now I don’t like it that much on
Attached is the ring I have now (sorry its blurry) and below is the one that I would like (probably not that big)
I feel like if I stayed with the ring I have, I would get a row of princess diamonds as my wedding band….if I got a different ring, I would put more money in the engagement ring and just buy a simple 14K silver wedding band
Post # 8
heres a better picture of the ring
Post # 9
I think it doesn’t matter much what any of us think. If you can talk over it with your FH and both agree on something you’re comfortable with, then that sounds like a solution to me.
About your worry with selling your current ring back to the jeweler, you’re right. You will not get what he paid for it. The jeweler will buy it back at a lower rate (and then resell at a price between the original cost and the cost they paid you). So if investing more money into it is a problem, then you might want to keep that in mind.