Question for other "just the two of you plus an officiant & photographer" folks

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 2
3835 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

DrMrsCol:   Won’t you need two witnesses?  Then you will have a nice congenial group for your


Post # 4
2869 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’d imagine she naturally wanna beat it and not hang around? God I hope so because I’m in the same position as you. 

Post # 5
26 posts

Can you ask what she wants to do?  Just go over it like all the other details.  If it doesn’t bother you that she stays, then let her choose to, but sounds like she won’t?

Post # 6
6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

DrMrsCol:  Our photog and her assistant were going to be out witnesses too, but then H’s parents decided to do it last minute (and who else can drive 800 miles for a Tuesday wedding in a different country!).

What time is the picnic after the cermeony?  Basically how long does the preson have to wait around?  It sounds like it’s the same day.  If it’s later in the day, you can just invite the priest and then let her figure how what she wants to do with her time.  Are you not wanting her to hike back alone?

Post # 7
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Our officiant split right after the ceremony… granted we were just at a city park and not a mile hike.  But I would suggest as others have, go over the plans with her and let her decide, I’m going to ‘assume” she has done many weddings and is accustomed to giving the new mr. and mrs. some space.  

Post # 8
4729 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wedding photographer here! I’ve been a witness for several of my couples having elopements. 🙂 I would just ask your offciant what they would like to plan on.

Post # 9
1016 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I woul just bring some extra food and offer her/him to stay for the picnic if s/he wishes. Most officiants seem like they want to take off as soon as the job is done rather than stay and mingle so I’d just drop her a line later and say “we’re having a picnic after and we’d love to have you” or even just offer the day of. 

You could even pack the officiant a nice little lunch that she could take away with her if she wants, like a sandwich, water, some snacks, with a thank you card maybe? 

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