question for past, present or soon to be bridesmaids!

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: if you were a bridesmaid what length would you prefer?
    I would prefer long : (20 votes)
    56 %
    I would prefer short : (16 votes)
    44 %
  • Post # 3
    455 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I don’t have any images on this computer unfortunately but I’ve been in about 5 bridal parties and all had long dresses.  I have to say my favourite was one that was an empire waist.  A couple had built in corsets and I found that when you were sitting for an extended amount of time, for example dinner, it started to get uncomfortable.  I’m fairly tall (5’10) and with long dresses I always had to order extra length if I wanted to wear heals, which usually meant an additional $50 on top of the cost of the dress.  I probably would have had to do the same with shorter dresses unless I wanted it to be really short so I guess that doesn’t matter either way.

    Post # 4
    490 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’ve been in one bridal party, and the dress was a long, strapless silver number that I’ll probably never be able to wear again without hacking off a bunch from the bottom.

    With my lone bridesmaid, I’m pretty much giving her free reign on the dress.  She’ll probably pick a short one because when they’re not covered in softball injuries, she’s got killer legs.

    Post # 5
    169 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @AndysCraftsNmore:  I’ve been a bridesmaid twice, one dress knee length, the other to the floor. No real preference, although with super white legs, long suits me well!

    First dress, was nice, but wasn’t really my pick or style. But, being generic, it suited all 3 of us, and the bride stood out, so it served its purpose (grey chiffon number, very feminine and pretty, sorry I’ve no photos).

    Second dress: because we were in different financial situations, and very different shapes, the bride basically said wear anything black. I bought a new dress (an evening gown on sale), another wore a dress  she already had, another borrowed. Each dress entirely different in style and length, but we all added ribbons in the wedding colour which clearly linked us as bridesmaids. We all loved that our personality shone through (this is what I’m doing with my bridesmaids too, because I loved it). Photos looked great.

    Still not worn either of them since the wedding….

    Post # 6
    5661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I just wore a long dress in a wedding and I thought I would hate it but I thought everyone looked really nice. If I had my choice I’d go short but I think fitting the venue/event is more important than what I would personally want to wear. It was kind of nice not having to worry about getting a giant bruise on my shin a day before the wedding.

    Post # 7
    40 posts
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I have been in 2 weddings recently. Both time they were long. The one was a corset back, strapless, satin dress and the other was a strapless chiffon dress. I think the chiffon dress is a great way to go. it’s really easy to wear, won’t wrinkle, and looks formal. I did not like the satin or the corset back. it was very uncomfortable. The only thing i wish the chiffon dress had was a strap or two.

    Post # 8
    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I’ve been in two weddings:

    Wedding #1 2006: I wore a $150, floor length chiffon bridesmaid dress. It was very classy and fit in great with the wedding. It was very hot though.

    Wedding #2: This was the dress I wore on Wednesday. It was a $30 dress from JC Penny (the other dress is as well) that can be worn again so that is a win in my book. It wasn’t a very classy dress, but they had a country outdoor wedding (hence the boots) so it fit the theme. It was very nice to sit and dance in all night, BUT if you are heavier or have a lot of badunk in the trunk (like me) it did your booty or your boobs no favors.


    Post # 9
    2173 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    Bridesmaid twice, both times the dress was short.  I think that helps me with the re-wearability factor (much easier to “dress down” a short dress than a long one, at least for me).  The first one I had was blue, strapless, and had chiffon-y material.  The second was purple, decently thick straps, satiny, and pretty form fitting.  I liked both, but I think the purple looks better on me, and I can actually wear it to more events (other weddings, dinner conferences, etc).  The blue one is too… bridesmaid for much less than a formal dinner or something similar.

    I think long dresses are very nice (I own a couple formal ones from my undergraduate years), but I also think the re-wearability is harder.

    Post # 10
    3084 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I was a bridesmaid once, the dress was tea-length. It didn’t fit me that well. I’m a thin girl and the dress was kind of bell like at the bottom, so there was way too much fabric for me. It was $180 – not including alteration. I donated it to a charity. 

    Post # 12
    369 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    The wedding I was bridesmaid for in 2008 was a victorian theme so the MOH made all of our theme-gowns. It was long, satin, and HOT. Oh and a fully boned corset. I wasn’t a fan of the color combo (sage green and lilac) so it’s not something I’d wear again, even as a costume. And it was pretty expensive in materials.

    Wedding this Sept I’m MOH: long illusion halter style from David’s Bridal (81441).
    I am still deciding if this is a comfortable dress for a summer wedding (satin), but I can move in it. The other bridesmaids really like it.

    My wedding in Dec: I put the girls in long dresses because our wedding is a bit formal, and in December so it will be chilly if we are outside at all. They all have different long dresses in the same color, and I’ve recieved no complaints on them. We did consider a few short dresses but they didn’t work on everyone.

    Post # 13
    2675 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    I have been a BM twice, once short and once long dress. I liked both in their own ways but preferred the short more casual one. The long dress was actually very comfortable but what I did not like was having to get a matching satin jacket that then made us so covered up I felt like something out a period drama. The bride made all of us spend an extra $50 for the jackets so one BM could cover her tropical frog tattoos on her arms.

    My Short Dress: Calvin Klein in Red

    Long Dress: David’s Bridal in Marine

    The matching jacket – also purchased in Marine to match the above dress..just picture the two together..too much coverage in my opinion. Especially considering we wore three strand necklaces (from the bride) that covered most of what skin was showing. It looked so much better without the jacket but all through the reception and photos we kept getting yelled at to put our jackets back on!! LOL.

    Post # 14
    37 posts
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I have been a bridesmaid once, and will be a bridesmaid again in one week. The first time, it was my college roommate’s wedding. She let us pick any dress we wanted in her color from the one specific shop. I picked a short taffeta dress with a halter. The other girls picked a strapless short dress, a strapless short pencil dress, and a spaghetti strap short dress (which was my personal runner up for the one I picked). The wedding coming up is my cousin’s. Again, she let us pick any dress we wanted as long as it matched her description – short, with sleeves, off white, lace. I found one online. So I have worn short both times.


    I don’t feel comfortable posting the pics from their wedding, but please pm me if you want me to send it to you that way.

    Post # 15
    164 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @AndysCraftsNmore:  I absolutely ADORED the dresses my cousin had us in – so much so that I’m using the same company for my wedding! We wore J Crew Bridal – I believe the dress was Louise or something. It was knee length silk chiffon. TO DIE FOR! J Crew, in my opinion, is a great company – they are constantly running sales so I got a $200+ dress for like $150 AND I’ve worn it 3 other times. It’s super neutral so I was able to add a cute belt when I wore it the other times. When you’re wearing something for 15+ hours (yes, we started getting ready at 10am and I didn’t strip down until after 2am). I personally prefer short dresses – unless it’s a winter wedding. A friend got married in July and made her girls wear floor lenth, all the pictures looked gross because they were sweating to death. 




    As far as being a bridesmaid, I think once is enough. I don’t particularly care of the drama women usually bring to groups and I tend to shy away from it. In this particular case my cousin is as close as a sister so I would do it again if she asked…but other than that, no thanks!


    Post # 16
    1771 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Bridesmaid once. The bride let us choose our own dresses but they had to meet certain criteria. She wanted tea-length which unfortunately makes my calves look as thick as elephant feet. Knee-length or floor-length would have been great.

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