Question for the MILs.. NWR

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
12262 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013


#1- It’s WAY not cool that she’s ganging up on you when DH isn’t there. If I were you, I would hang out with her, tell DH what she complained about, and then have him go “But Mom! I picked those (flowers/cake/whatever). I love it! Do you think I have bad taste or something?”

Make sure he does it after EVERY confrontation, and she’ll figure it out.

#2- I do agree with that. I think my MIL has WAY more life experience than I do, and I think it drives her INSANE when I suggest that I might know something about kids or houses (Since I owned my own home before moving in with DH and I work with infants as my career)

I make sure to ask her what she thinks about EVERYTHING. Then I just smile and nod, and she gets to feel like she knows everything (Sigh…)

#3- I think that she’s desperately grasping at straws while she loses her last vestige of control over her son’s life. I can’t imagine how hard it is to lose your son to another woman (who you probably see as silly and young)

Post # 4
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@mseagles:  Do you think she’s just trying to offer some advice or guidance, in a motherly way? My stepdad’s mom does this to my mom quite often.  She tends to come off as quite crass & insensitive, but deep down she tends to mean well.  I’m not saying its okay, but maybe she doesn’t realize how much she’s offending you.

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