Post # 1
Love them or hate them?
So many brides come back and complain that the photographer didn’t get a shot they wanted and wonder if they had a list would it have made it better. Some pro’s have said that they don’t like lists. You should trust their judgement.
I can see where a list of all the common sense stuff would be annoying like: first kiss, grooms face, getting ready, rings, ect. but what about things like “I want a photo of my invites with our rings on it” or “I want a photo with each of my bridesmaids and then photos of them on their own so they have nice photos of themselves.” or “No jumping photos, photos of the bridesmaids pretending to flirt with the groom, and no photos of the bridal party picking us up.”
What do the pro’s suggest? Did you make a photo list for your photographer? Did they follow it?
Post # 3
@Miss Tattoo: Most pro’s will ask you the things that are not obvious to them. The problem is not all the pro’s out there are really “pro’s” so perhaps it’s better to be safe than sorry when using someone that hasn’t been around for more than 5 yrs.
Post # 4
My photographer actually begged me to please make a specific photo list- she said it really sucks to have someone displeased that she missed a shot she didn’t know they wanted.
Realistically they are a photographer, not a mind reader, and since you are paying them to take pictures I don’t see why anyone would get upset if you were a little fussy over specific pictures. It may be the only chance to have that exact picture!
Post # 5
I actually will use the photo list a bit differently. If I have a bride that has a large bridal party and family I will ask for list of who they want formal-posed pictures with, minus the really obvious ones. I find that this saves time and helps organization, it’s funny to watch because I will have my assistant calling out names and making sure that people don’t stray too far away from us, it’s a bit of an assembly line type activity!
I usually cover the no jumping, please photograph me from this angle only, kind of requests in a meeting. I write it all down and keep it in their file.
Post # 6
Hey I told my photog to do whatever he had to to get the first kiss shot… you’d be amazed at how often that’s “missed” or just not captured well.
He ultimately brought a 2nd shooter and told him that he could get whatever he wanted as long as he was set up and didn’t miss the kiss… needless to say we got a GREAT shot of it. lol
And as for the things that you see as obvious details I can almost gaurantee that they don’t, we didn’t get 1 single shot of my seating chart and I tell you it was a punk to get done and up.. oh well. lol
I say make a list and talk it through with them BEFORE the day of =)
Post # 7
@runsyellowlites: our photographer asked us to do the kiss over, no big deal. Why not do that than miss it.
Post # 8
@USER876 Because I didn’t want a posed do over pic, I wanted to have the real thing captured. lol
He got it and I’m glad b/c even as great as all our other kiss pics are (we were stupid happy) they weren’t THAT kiss. 😉
Post # 9
@USER876: I also hear you should kiss a little longer to give the photographer a chance to get the shot. I’ve read so many stories of couples basically pecking for half a second and the photographer missing it or telling them to do it over. lol
What is considered too big of a list. I remember someone posted a list they found online and it was MASSIVE! A few pro’s didn’t like it and said they wouldn’t want to work with anyone who gave them a list that massive. A lot of it was common sense things though.
Post # 10
Something to think about — your photographer is going to be busy and may not have time to look at your list while the wedding is ongoing. He/She will most likely check it before the event and that’s it. So if there’s something really important to you, designate a trusted friend to remind if it’s just a few items (such as, rings on invitation/program). ie, I wouldn’t give them a 10-point list 🙂 You are going to be overwhelmed with all that’s going on and will forget.
Post # 11
@Miss Tattoo our photog and I were laughing about him telling us about our other friend getting the kiss shot… he said that as we were getting ready and through the kiss it sounded like a machine gun was going off in the back. lol.. he did get it though and I’m SO happy with how it came out =)
I think that as long as you don’t go overboard and list is nice.. and I would definitely talk it through with you photog BEFORE the big day.
Like maybe inbetween getting ready.. or before that they can get the detail shots you want of reception decor. stuff like that.
Post # 12
Our photographer works with his wife, and he said she’ll keep him on target and mark off the things as we go and make sure he doesn’t miss anything important. He told us the list should be the absolute don’t miss shots, which makes sense to me. Obviously he’s going to get more than what’s on the list, but I like the thought of him knowing what he absolutely shouldn’t miss.
Post # 13
@Miss Tattoo: My advice on the list thing is not to necessarily give your photog a list, but make a list and know it yourself or delegate someone to remind you. I had all kinds of things in my head i wanted. I missed several of them (many of those seem much less important now than they did a few weeks ago). But one positive thing I am finding is the more I look at my photos is that I actually DID tell my photog on the day to get certain things as they popped up. I wanted a full length of me bymyself in my dress and i asked her directly when we were kinda standing around waiting. I wanted the veil over my face, so again when we were in between stuff, it came to me that i wanted that shot and so she set it up and took it. I wanted indiviudal shots with each Bridesmaid or Best Man – my sister actually asked for this, then i remembered i wanted one with each Bridesmaid or Best Man, so i got them. I love it when Darling Husband kisses my cheek, so i got several of those….I did forget to ask for several things like BMs and me on the beach by ourselves, shoes on feet, rings on ring pillow. But a lot of my fave shots were the ones i asked for in the moment. So i don’t even think it matters who has the list….as long as someone brings it up when the opportunity is there, you should be fine. I got quite a few gems just by randomly remembering things. Now imagine i had memorized a short list?!
As for the first kiss thing. I knew my photog would get it. But it was funny because when we actually had our kiss, we started out shyly kissing, but then the moment took over me and i was not thinking about pictures, or people watching. The only thing that took over my mind was “RIGHT NOW is my first kiss….this is IT!” So i prolonged the moment myself by just enjoying it. I wrapped my arms around my husband and made sure we really kissed simply because i was enjoying the moment and everyone and everything else just evaporated from my mind. And of course, my photog was snapping away the whole time, so i have several great shots of the kiss, but those are just bonus to the memory I have of the moment!
Post # 14
I think a lot of people also give that list to their Maid/Matron of Honor or a trusted relative…someone who will actually know the people on the list.
Post # 15
I have an interactive pdf I ask the couple to fill out – it has a space for the ‘all important shots we might not know about’. They tend to be things like a family heirloom detail or a dear aunt who made the trip especially.
I love knowing to look out for those things because it’s all part of what makes the day special for that particular couple, and that in turn tells their story and no other.