Post # 1
DH is terrified of period sex, but I want to try, at least on one of my later days where it’s more like spotting in the toilet. (I’ve never tried it.)
DH is terrified that his you-know-what is going to come out looking like a “wounded soldier.”
I also have the idea of taking the extra pre-caution of sticking in and immediately removing a tampon to clear out any small amounts of red stuff prior to sex.
So those of you who’ve done it, do you think that it’s likely that on one of the later “spotting” days, with my extra precaution, that there will be NO red evidence on DH? (We don’t want to use a condom.) He would never forgive me if I begged him to and then he came out with anything period-related on him!
Post # 3
Towards the end of my period its not especially messy but we either do it in the shower for easy clean up or use a condom.
Post # 4
Menstration is a completely natural thing. I assure you no sharks or throwing stars with fly out at him if he ventures near you. Cleanliness is obviously a concern. Shower prior to and after is the best route to go. Also put down a towel so you dont mess up the sheets. And there is no guarantee that there will be “no evidence” as you put it. Your husband should love you, a little blood should not cause him to be forever scarred and “never forgive you if you got anything period related on him”. Are you planning on having children? Much more fluids and things will be coming out of there. Menstrual blood is nothing!
Post # 5
Unfortunately, it is highly likely that there will be ‘evidence’.
If he is not into it I don’t know why you would push it just wait the extra couple days.
Post # 7
I tend to be pretty light, but I find that usually there isn’t much sign of any evidence since it all gets dissipated into the rest of the fluids down there (sounds gross I know).
Post # 8
We’ve certainly had our share of period sex, no big deal to either of us. DH usually uses it as an excuse to shower together afterwards–usually there isn’t really a lot of blood on his dick, more just on his pubic area.
Post # 9
I have a very heavy flow, so pretty much we just can’t do it during my time of the month because it is beyond disgusting. My TOM also lasts like a good 6 days, with a couple spotting days there after, so usually right after my TOM ends he will have a *little* “evidence” left behind. It’s honestly not that big of a deal; I think the idea of it is more daughting than anything to the man, and once he sees that it doesn’t kill him, he’s apt to not care.
As far as your DH not wanting any evidence at all, well then it seems like that totally defeats the purpose of your want to have sex while on your period, no? I would either talk him into just trying it once and accepting the fact that a little tiny bit of a mess with occur (if you have a normal/light flow), or you need to respect his reservations and simply wait to get frisky until your TOM is over.
Post # 10
WOW….I went through a time where I had my period pretty much ALL THE TIME (yes, it sucked)…luckily my now FI did not care…..I even tried these little cup things that you put inside during your period to decrease mess, but he preferred not to use those as well…
It’s just blood, it will clean off….no differnt than when he cums in you really (actually I think it’s a little less gross)….
AND, during that time of month you are WAY more sensitive and sex feels SOOOO good…:D and why would he complain about extra wetness down there?
I say make him try it….you never know until you do……also, what happens if it starts unexpectedly while you’re doing it? this will prepare him for it….
Post # 11
Just put a towel down and go for it–you can always shower afterwards. Has your DH ever been able to articulate why he is so bothered by “evidence?”
Post # 12
Honestly, FI and I have had sex almost every period I’ve had since we started having sex. It’s messy (put a towel down), and you WILL have to shower after (the both of you)… But it’s worth it.
Just sayin’ 😉
ETA: Also, if you don’t want to risk/see the mess… Two words: shower sex.
Post # 13
I have to respond to this because I feel like I might know exactly what your FI concern is.
My FI and I do do this quite frequently. The first time he said he didn’t care that aunt flow was in town and wanted to give it a try. We did and right after when he went to clean up he noticed some blood on his member. He became light headed and said he felt sick. After he composed himself and he saw i was upset he explained. It’s just that when ever someone see’s blood on an area where there shouldnt be the asume they are hurt. Men hold their members in such high regards that it made him panic that there was something wrong with his stuff. I work in Dental and see blood all the time and it doesn’t faze me, but when I get a good cut ( with pain) I can sometime faint (lol) sad but true. We still do this and it’s never been a problem since. Now that he knows what to expect and that his friend is going to be ok he can get on with it no problem. I don’t know for sure if this is the case with your guy, I just wanted to share my story. Ask him about it and see what his thoughts are.
Best of luck
Post # 14
@BelleriverBride: Actually I have to say ditto on this a little… FI was pretty grossed out the first time he saw it, and he uh… Turns off a little, if you will, if he happens to look at it while we’re changing up positions or anything.
OP, if you can get him to try it once, I think you’ll be okay! Just be prepared with a towel and showering on the brain (and don’t get offended if he gets grossed out…)
Post # 15
If he can’t hack it, keep him out of the kitchen. 😉
Post # 16
I’ve never been with a man who cared about having sex on my period. As an experienced man in his late thirties. my SO certainly doesn’t care! It’s natural, who cares? Are the posters with SO’s who are bothered younger? I could see less experienced men being freaked out, but not a man who knows his way around a woman’s body!