(Closed) Question for Waiting Bees…

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

because if the guy’s dragging his feet, there’s a good chance it’s because he’s just not ready yet. guys, statistically, feel ready for marriage much later than girls, because they like to feel set in their career first etc. ie in a survey, guys seem to be ready from age 28-35, while girls are ready at 23 (if I remember correctly; something like this)!

anyway, I don’t mind proposing, but in our first year together he already told me he wanted to do the proposing. so I let him have his little spotlight. ;P we’re already breaking a lot of traditions, like I won’t be taking his last name, he does the cleaning around the house, etc. gotta let him have something!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

I agree with Patchy.

I have actually asked my SO how he would feel about me proposing to him. which he said, he wants to ask me. so with that being said, I wait. plus call me old fashion, but I want him to ask me.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

No way! I’m an old fashioned girl and want to be surprised with a proposal.

Post # 7
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Newbee

I agree with PP.

I asked SO one time about how he felt if I asked him. He was shocked and did not like the idea. SO said he wants to propose to me, he wants to do everything the traditional way. In addition, he has not proposed yet because of financial reasons. He is still in school.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I agree, I think taking the marriage step has to be a mutual decision when both parties are ready, not the girl sitting around waiting for the guy to purpose. For us we agreed on 5 years of dating and living together before discussing getting engaged and we are both mutually happy with that plan. If one person is way ahead of their partner on the marriage timeline then it may just not be for the best.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m old fashion myself, and so is he. Yes he does joke around saying that I should do it but  if I did he would be upset.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

@notestasiskis:  he won’t even take my name so no i don’t think me proposing will work out lmao…..

Post # 11
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Helper bee

um, he doesnt want me asking him, so i wait. theres your answer.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

While I don’t have a problem with women proposing, I feel (in my own situation) that it’s his moment. 

Post # 13
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Newbee

@tisposeroperche:  Me too!! SURPRISED with a proposal, not knowing it and go get the ring together! I like the romantic way, not the “modern” one!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

There’s no reason the girl shouldn’t be the one to propose in this day and age! Believe me, I was -this- close to doing it at various points in our 6 year relationship. On the other hand, it makes sense to see how the SO feels about it first and test the waters before doing something like that… you don’t want to end up with a bewildered SO who may in fact have already started planning a proposal in his mind.

I ended up not doing it and just shutting it because my SO is the type that when he does make a decision that he wants to do something, he dives into it 100% and there’s no looking back… so I had the feeling that he genuinely wasn’t ready and I backed off the man-gagement plan. I knew it would all unfold when the time was right, although waiting is soooo hard sometimes!!

Sure enough, one day we were just sitting on the couch and he says “You know I want to marry you, right?” Ummmm, no, actually I didn’t 🙂 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

This question is frequently asked on the waiting board 😛 For me, it is because my SO is very traditional and wants to propose himself to make it official. I’ve jokes with him in the past that I would propose to him but he said that he would say no. It is very important for him to propose. 

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