Question for women who have vaginal orgasms.

posted 2 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

It’s definitely the partner. And it takes a lot of patience and learning.  It took me a long time to figure out what I liked because I didn’t have someone who was dedicated to helping me find out.  If your partner is patient and willing to explore, there are lots of things that you may find you enjoy that you never knew before.  

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery

PortiaPie:  I will say that having a patient and caring partner would help achieve this but that is not always the fix. Some women just cannot achieve orgasm through vaginal penetration alone. We are all wired differently. It is definitely important to try different things but do not think there is something wrong with your partner or yourself if you can’t. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I go on top, he tilts his hips up and then I get it on my own…I am also in my 30’s and did not get this to happen until I was in my  late 20s

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I seem to get off while I’m on top or laying flat on my stomach crossing my ankles….oh man that is the best!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

PortiaPie:  Do you know where your g-spot is? Do you have g-spot orgasms with finger stimulation?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

Finding the G spot qnd enough foreplay to get me wet enough and im good. Lazy doggy is the best position some days!!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

The partner and hitting my 30’s.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

PortiaPie:  The partner makes a big difference. I can have a vaginal orgasm lots of ways, and I do almost every time we have sex. With me on top it’s pretty simplbe, that’s probably easiest to start with because you’re more in control. If he’s on top I can orgasm if he sort of lifts my bottom up (or puts pillows under my butt, so you get more of an angle. Often we do it with him from behind. If he’s behind, it helps if he stimulates my clit while having sex from behind. For me that helps a lot.

I once read that women who masturbate more have an easier time orgasming. I think that’s true, you get to know yourself better and what makes YOU come better. Something that makes me orgasm might totally turn you off! Also, I find that foreplay helps a lot. If you’re not properly warmed up it’s not likely going to happen. Maybe buy a dildo or vibrator to play around with yourself and figure out all your spots. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

PortiaPie:  Size and shape make a difference. But that’s not all of it–it’s how his shape fits with your shape that makes all the difference. You cant do anything about that, so here are somethings you can do…

1) Masturbate often–if you can just use your hands and no toys. If you have to use toys, try using non electric toys. Try to give yourself 2,3,4 orgasms. The more orgasmic your body is, the easier it will be to have a vaginal orgasm.

2) Find and exploit your G-spot. It gets easier to find and have a reaction from as you get older. The vaginal wall thins so there is more sensation. In the beginning, do lots and lots of foreplay so you are super turned on. Then have him find it (it’s the walnut like rough spot in the front of the vaginal wall just a few inches in) and try different techniques to see which one works for you–tapping, gentle swirling, firm pressure, etc.  Then learn to let go, dont get in your head. The g-spot orgasm feels different from the clitoral ones. Over time, have him give you multiple O from the g-spot. (I’ve found that after he’s really good at finding it, you dont even need foreplay, he can just touch it and give you an O)

3)Once you’ve been doing steps 1 & 2, then try different positions to hit the g-spot during intercourse. 

OR–if you want to just get on with it without all the work–get a vibe that he wears at the base of his penis or you wear (I think they are called butterflies) while you have intercourse LOL

Have fun!

Post # 12
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Busy bee

PortiaPie:  Seriously, I need to orgasm from oral first. After that, my g spot expands and it’s way easier to orgasm the 2nd time. So the 2nd time is usually when we have PIV. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

PortiaPie:  I’ve gotten there exactly twice in my life, both with my ex boyfriend who, by the way, had a tiny penis. My husband who has a normal sized penis gets me there every time but not without some clitoral stimulation as well. The two times I acheived this flying unicorn of a sexual acheivement, He was sitting on the couch and I was on him face-to-face going VERY slowly for like 10 minutes. I my gspot is very shallow so I think that position + small dick = orgasmic gold in the form of two nearly impossible sex feats. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

PortiaPie:  

I’ve always been a highly orgasmic woman. I had a vaginal orgasm the third time I ever had sex.

For me, I have to have a partner who knows how to move. He has to know how deep and how quickly to thrust. 

My most powerful vaginal orgasms come from having sex in the doggy style position. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I dated a guy a few years ago and he is the ONLY guy that I’ve ever been able to have an orgasm with withouth clitoral stimulation.  He was about 9 years older than me, lived several hours away, and happened to be a coworker (a huge no no).  Size wise, he is the smallest I’ve ever been with…it was on the verge of being comical but oh my gosh.  The sex was INCREDIBLE.  At first it would only happen when I was on top..he let me control my mvoements because I knew what felt good…but then one night he was on top and it took no time at all.  I’ve had my fair share of partners…but I don’t know if anything, including my fiance, will ever be able to top this one.  

For what it’s worth…he was quite the bag of tricks..he loved having sex when I was on my period and often told me how amazing sex would be if I was pregnant.  I don’t know if that’s weird or not.. 

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