Post # 1
Ok, ok i know your invites set the tone, but i live in Montana. I am one of those people who were born in a location where i never belonged, i am smart, classy, and love shopping and spa days and amazing (high end) food/ gourmet cooking–completely opposite of my meat and potatoes kinda parents granted they are my BEST friends and i love them to death, but over half of the guest list is for my parents old, hick/ hill billy friends– my own mom tells me she is wearing jeans and my dad wont wear a tie– the only time he did was for an hour at his own wedding. im struggling with both of them on this already, i just dont want to have a bunch of people show up in jeans. so how do i say this wedding is black tie or jackets required with out being a bridezilla? i was thinking something about putting something like,
“Formal Invitation to Follow —
prepare to dress to the nines for a evening of magnificent desserts, signature cocktails and splendid live music to dance to under the stars.”
on the Save the Dates, but what if they dont know what dressing to the nines are? what is another way of saying it with out saying… prepare to dress formal or this is a formal event?
it is an 8 pm wedding on a saturday night, the sun will be just setting during the ceremony and the venue will be lit up by lanterns, candles, and white christmas lights for the remainder of the night. it is a garden wedding where it is surrounded by ponds– phenominal little area. so any ideas or suggestions? what would you do? any advice would be greatly appriciated!!!!!
Post # 3
I put it on my wedding website, and I’m putting it on the invitations something like “formal attire requested” or something like that.
Post # 4
if you put the word “requested”, they might think it isn’t required!
You could use the words “black tie” and that would get the message across.
to be honest, you can dress up BLACK jeans really nicely (provided they aren’t faded or have holes in them) with a dress shirt or fancy blouse.
Wish I had more suggestions, but I’ve never been once for “formal” and we’re actually requesting people NOT come in formal clothes and to come in costume….
good luck! hope I helped a little!
Post # 5
Formal Attire – Black Tie Welcome
Post # 6
thanks for the responses, keep them coming… 😀 also just a note, does it make a difference that the wedding is vintage themed?
Post # 7
does this sound better?/ more understandable?
prepare to dress your best for a grand evening of magnificent desserts, signature cocktails and splendid live music to dance to under the stars.
Post # 8
Simple put: Formal Attire Required.
Post # 9
I would put it directly on the invitations: Black Tie, Formal Attire, etc. But be prepared for people to ignore it (I went to a black tie weddin over the summer and there were men there in linen shirts and casual pants).
Post # 10
I think ‘black tie or formal attire required’ is best. If you want to word it cutely like you’ve been posting here how about:
Get out those suits and gowns and join us for a grand evening of magnificent desserts, signature cocktails and splendid live music to dance to under the stars.
Post # 12
I think your best bet is to be very direct. Formal Attire Required. If your guests are able to afford it, put Black Tie. Some guests may think “their best” is jeans.
I’m having a similar problem. Our wedding won’t be Black Tie and not casual. If I put Semi-Formal (jackets and long dresses) some people may assume I mean “wear jeans and a collared shirt!”.
Post # 13
@luckyprincess: i love the “get out your suits & gowns…”
I think im just putting “A Black Tie Affair” on ours.. or something to that effect
Post # 14
I usually don’t say this, but you might just put it on the invitation. SuchandSuch Attire Requested
Black tie – A Black Tie invitation calls for formal attire. Men wear tuxedos, women wear cocktail, long dresses or dressy evening separates
Formal – Formal usually means the same as Black Tie, but in some trendier cities like New York or Los Angeles, it could mean a black shirt, no tie with a tux. Women wear cocktail, long dresses or dressy evening separates
Black Tie Optional – A Black Tie Optional or Black Tie Invited gives you the option of wearing a tuxedo or fromal dress, but it should clue you into the formality of the event, meaning a dark suit and tie would be your other option. Women wear cocktail, long dresses or dressy evening separates
Cocktail – Cocktail Attire means short, elegant dresses for her and dark suits for him.
Post # 15
thank you for all of your advice so far ladies!
Post # 16
I agree with putting it directly on the invitations. Most people appreciate knowing what to wear, and you’ll probably STILL get some guests asking (we had tons ask us for our wedding). I went to a wedding where they put “black tie optional” on the invitations and found it the easiest to decide what type of dress to wear.