Question I am too embarrassed to ask

posted 3 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Payless:  Just ask her.  Say, “Sooo who all do you want at your bachelorette party, if you were to get one?  Do you and Sally want to do one together or separately?”  Get her answer, and then don’t tell her ANYTHING ELSE!!!

As for who should go to the party, invite friends…mine did not just have my bridesmaids.  =)

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would plan the bachelorette party for both of them. You can definitely consult them about what they’d like, but if the brother isn’t planning on doing anything then you should definitely include your friend’s fiance. There are plenty of male/female couples that have joint bachelor/ette parties, so I can’t see why it shouldn’t be the same here? If anything, since you said both of the women are girly it would make sense to do it together since they have similar taste. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Payless:  Do they like spa things?  Use your knowledge of your friends!  

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Can you call it “Jill & Jill” and throw it for both of them.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I can throw in what my wife and I had…  we had separate parties on the same weekend.  Hers was a trip to a burlesque show followed by food and drinks at a Japanese yakitori restaurant with a private karoke room.  For mine, we went to a dinner theatre then back to our apartment to continue the party.

For us, we were torn about doing separate ones and not being at each other’s.  In the end, it was nice to have an evening all about ourselves but we were both sad to miss each other’s… 

Other friends had a separate bachelor and bachelorette party on the same night that met up after midnight.  That went over fantastically.

Definitely invite friends.  I actually had a few people at my bachelorette who couldn’t make it to the actual wedding, and it was so good to see them for a bit.  Maybe you could split into 2 groups at some point, maybe separate lunches or dinners, but come back together for the end of the festivities.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Throw one for them together

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I say ask both first.  Unless you think they would both love a surprise? lol…. Im kinda stuck on if you should do for both or separate . I guess the whole point is to party your last night of being ” single”? i dunno how that would work. Unless you do more of a bridal shower .. then have both together and plan some fun/ romantic games !

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

as for girly ideas .. figure out what you wanna do first then see what they both like to do . let us know and maybe we go from there .

Post # 16
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m with everyone else.  Ask both.  My fiancee and I are having seperate bachelorette parties on the same weekend.  However, she doens’t have a ton of friends where we live and I do.  So doing two nights means everyone is going out to celebrate each of us individually which I’m really looking forward to.  If the other bride has a bunch of different friends than your bride, you can either invite everyone to both, or make each party intimate with the girls closest to the bride. 

I know the other bride doesn’t have a MOH, but her brother CAN jump in and help.  Mines helping organize as we’re going out to a pub, play pool and bowl.  He can help rent a limo, make reservations etc.  Don’t be afraid to ask for his help 🙂

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