question on listing parents/step parents/deceased parents on wedding program

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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2111 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@CSEJ06:  I would want to recognize them as well, my only concern would be listing K as your stepmom as she and your dad aren’t married anymore. I don’t know what that would officially  make her now other than former or ex stepmother which sounds weird for such an important person in your life. I don’t have a solution, but I think what you have is great other than that one portion.

Post # 5
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729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

FH’s parents are divorced, his dad remarried (ages and ages ago), and FH’s birth mother passed away almost 5 years ago. Here is what we did for our programs:

Parents of the Bride
John & Jane Doe

Parents of the Groom

Jim & Sally Smith, and Betty Brown

Jim & Sally Smith are FH’s Dad and Step-Mom, and Betty Brown is his (deceased) bio-Mom. (All names changed, of course.)

We went back and forth about putting “the late Betty Brown” instead, but FH felt it was too “dark” (his words) and he wanted to focus on the love from all three parents, not the fact that one is deceased.

Good luck to you!

Post # 6
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2111 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@CSEJ06:  I think grouping them would work. Then when recognizing those who’ve passed, just saying, “On this special day in our lives, we lovingly remember TB, JD and JW.”

Post # 7
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2338 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Do you still refer to her as your step mom? Even in just your head? Then list her as such. My step mother has passed, and there’s a chance I’ll have another step mother eventually (my dad is very young), but I will still list her as my step mom.

I would put your bio parent first, and then list her as your step mom. Don’t get into other people’s relationships on your program. 

And I’d warn your dad that you are listing her as such on the program, just so he is aware, if it’s a bad situation between them

Post # 9
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2338 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

@CSEJ06:  That you are happy with your choice is the only important thing! Good for you for making a decision that you like and can stand by. 

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