Post # 1
I’m a regular poster but needed to go anonymous…I’d be mortified if someone from my real-life found this.
Darling Husband and I have just begun TTC. We have BD’d twice without a condom so far – the first time I’ve ever had sperm inside of me in my life.
Both times have been insanely painful after BD. There is an intense burning that is only relieved by a cool cloth. It continues to hurt for 30-45 minutes afterwards. We have gone back to using condoms and essentially halted our TTC process.
I don’t know if there’s a problem, or if my body just isn’t used to it, but it doesn’t seem normal. Darling Husband is very worried and telling me to go to the Dr, but I am so not comfortable with my new Dr.
Has anyone experiened this? I’m so worried it’s a sign of infertility…
Post # 3
do you use lots of lube? Might be the friction from not using a lubricated condom? Other than that, I know that some women can be allergic to sperm, however, don’t run with that because I think it’s SUPER rare.
Most likely just a friction thing, or maybe you’re nervous about TTC/unprotected sex and you’re not lubricating, or having PC muscle spasms?
Try lots of foreplay, and lots of lube! 🙂
Post # 4
@worried1234: I sometimes get a similar feeling when Darling Husband takes a long time to “get there” and tehre is increased friction/decreased lubrication. I agree with @anotherbee that if you’re used to a lubricatd condom my best guess would be that your sensitive parts are even MORE sensitive.
If you’re going to try lube, makes ure to get PreSeed or something similar, most regualar lube can actually slow his swimmers down a bit and make it a little more difficult to get his sperm to your egg. We got PreSeed from Walgreens, not too expensive. Hope this gets better soon!
Post # 5
You do need to speak with your doctor. Can you get a recommendation for a different doctor if you don’t like your current one? That’s the only way to know for sure what it is. I’m sorry.
Post # 6
Thirding lube before you worry too much!
Post # 7
I don’t think it sounds normal either. I would definitely ask a dr whenever there is pain.
Post # 8
I have to agree with the other PP’s it just sounds like you’re not wet enough. Lubing up may help.
Post # 9
Okay since this is already a bit Too Much Information I hope u don’t mind me asking. how do u clean up down there after sex. Bc I’ve found that if I wipe with a towel or toilet paper after sex and a little more ejaculation comea out after it can cause that burning sensation. So now I wipe up with a warm pretty damp towel or a wet wipe like charmin wipes. Or just shower. I think tp or dry towels r too much friction and can cause little tears and the sperm can aggregate it more.
Post # 10
Maybe hop in the bathtub after to sooth and clean things out?
I agree with many of the other ladies …its probably nothing, just takes some getting used to. It would be incredibly rare to be allergic to his sperm!
Post # 11
There was a special on TLC last week about a woman who had these symptoms. They thought it was an infection at first, and prescribed her antibitics, but they were later able to figure out that she actually had an allergy to semen…worth looking into?
Post # 12
it sounds like either pain from friction, or, I have heard of people being allergic to sperm before…maybe it’s BS but worth looking into? I don’t know?
Post # 13
@Miss_Itzy: That’s what I thought of, too.
Post # 14
I burn every time too… I haven’t talked to a doctor about it, but I’m in the same boat as you
Post # 15
I’ve had burning before. I think for me it was a friction/lube issue. Try Preseed (I think that’s the only lube that doesn’t kill sperm and/or raise your risk of infection) and if that doesn’t work, see your doc. It you are allergic or something, you may have to go the IUI route, but I couldn’t imagine it would keep you from having kids all together…
ETA: Also make sure you aren’t using any soap, detergent, or anything else that could be irritating.
Post # 16
I recommend more lube. I get a burning sensation when we don’t have enough Lubrication either natural or with lube. We like coconut oil as a lube. I don’t know if it would effect sperm or not.
I’ve also had problems with certain lubes irritating me and coconut oil does not.