Post # 1
My wedding is pretty laid back and comfortable. We aren’t having a served meal. It’s just buffet style. Should I have arranged seating or just let the guests sit where they want to sit. I think I like the idea of having thought of everyone, but don’t want people to feel constrained to a certain seat. Help please! And thanks bees!
Post # 3
i am actually having mine pretty much the same way and we’ve chosen no seating chart, i’ve found some cute signs like this and i think i am going to make one that says something similar http://wanelo.com/p/1172651/wedding-seating-plan–casual-wedding-seating-chart-sign-1-ready-to-ship
Post # 4
I’m always the vote for no assigned seating, but really only because the idea is totally foreign to me. I’ve been to only one (out of town) wedding with a seating chart and I honestly didn’t even realize this was a thing until I came on weddingbee. I think it’s regional. If your guests are used to seating charts and it’s the norm where you’re at, I’d bite the bullet and do it. If it’s not the norm, don’t worry about it. I didn’t have one, and everything worked out perfectly fine. There were no fights for seats, no one stole chairs from other tables. If you go the non-seating chart route, just reserve a few tables in choice locations for family and let everyone else figure it out. We ended up also having 2 extra tables to accomodate people since we knew numbers-wise it wouldn’t work out perfectly.
Post # 5
@robertsbreana: Our wedding is similar but because of past experieces we’re doing assigned tables (but not specific seats, they can ararnge themselves at the table haha)
Post # 7
If it’s buffet style with plenty of seating available, I don’t think you need a seating plan 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
BBQ buffett and no seating chart.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Assign tables but not seats.
I was at a wedding 2 months ago that was laidback and fun with a buffet and there was open seating. It was a DISASTER. Seriously. I wouldn’t say it ruined the wedding, but it certainly made everything seem extremely unorganized. People were trying to find chairs to move and squeeze in with friends and others were looking awkward at half empty tables. Families were separated. Not good.
Plus, if you don’t assign tables, you have to provide extra seating because your guests will not sit 8 or 10 to a table. There will be 5 at one table and 11 trying to get into another. This means extra cost in linens and tables if you are paying for them and extra centerpieces. Plus, you need more space, so if your space is tight, this can be a huge problem.
It’s really a courtesy to your guests and shows that you are an organized and thoughtful bride if you assign tables.
Post # 10
@mrsSonthebeach: You stated everything so well, its courteous to let your guests know where there is room for them/their family.
I’m having a slightly casual garden party and having games for guests to play before food is served. I know that if I do not assign seating then they will rush to find a seat for them/family (I have 2 families who will take up an entire table, and 5 others who will make up the majority of the table) I want them to be able to relax, enjoy the games, grab a drink, and not have to be worried about getting a table that their family will be able to fit at.
I think assigning tables makes the day more enjoyable for guests especially when you put the time in to seat people with friends, or people they would have fun conversations with.
Unless you want to have 5 extra tables and lots of chaos at your wedding, I suggest table assignments. 🙂
Post # 11
if the vibe is really casual then i would keep your seating the same way.
Post # 12
@mrsSonthebeach: I completely agree with you. What she said.
I’ve been to a couple weddings where there wasn’t assigned seating and let me tell you – It. Was. Weird. Everyone shuffled around for like 10 minutes trying to figure out where to sit, the family doesn’t really know where to sit, and then it’s just kind of weird and uncomfortable.
We are absolutely doing assigned tables, but we know our friends/family well enough to be able to know who to pair together and who will have fun with whom. 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
@sweetpeony: Honestly, there is nothing incompatible about a seating chart (for tables, not seats) and a casual event. They still tell you where to sit at Chili’s, don’t they? You keep it casual and carefree by using first names on the escort cards and using casual, cute cards, not formal, stuffy, caligraphed one, and with the dress and decor.
Post # 14
I think you are fine. I had the same arrangement with no issues. We had reserved a couple tables for the parents/grandparents and people sat where they wanted. Nothing awkward and nobody was by themselves. My guests (160) were all close to each other though and were comfortable sitting with whomever. Was complimented by many on my set-up and how well things flowed.
How many guests?
Assigned seating is common here. I do not have any issue with them and I do not feel confined as I only sit there for dinner and thats it. You will usually see me dancing or wandering around to other tables to talk to people.
I have only been to one other like mine but it didn’t seem to run as smoothly.
Post # 15
@StephieBee: Haha it goes both ways! I went to one wedding in Boston that had assigned seating, my first ever out of dozens and dozens of weddings attended, and my first thought was “This is so f-ing weird.” My now-husband agreed. Neither of us had ever seen anything like it and thought it was so strange, like we were little kids being told where to sit in school. I get the appeal of it now after being on weddingbee, but still think it’s totally weird – but then again it’s not what I’m used to! If all the weddings I’d ever been to had had assigned tables, I would probably think open seating was strange.
Post # 16
I’m not having a seating chart. My mom insisted that we don’t, and eventually I got over my wanting one. I am however making escort cards for my guests to place at their seat to ‘save’ them. People have been seating themselves for a long time, they can figure it out!