Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2014 - Firehall
My FI and I love Gettysburg, PA and visit every October. We wanted to have our wedding there. All was fine and dandy until my parents stepped in and said if I have it there, they will not be attending, because they won’t have anyone to watch their dogs (they have pitbulls).
So, as much as I’d love to have my wedding in Gettysburg (we live in Pittsburgh, PA) I’m torn.
They haven’t offered to help pay for anything, but family means a lot to me.
The other thing is, having it locally will only mean more people will be expected to be inivited, but we really only want close family there since we are footing the bills.
So, what would you do.. confront the parents? Say screw it and do whatever you want? I’m torn..
Post # 3
Do your parents also live in Pittsburgh?
Post # 4
I would say screw it, and do what you want. It’s your wedding, and you want it to reflect you and your fiance.
Believe me, I am very close to my family and would be devestated if they weren’t at my wedding. I’d be willing to bet if you do your wedding in PA, your parents will find a way to get a dogsitter and go. Seems like a lame excuse to me.
Wedding planning can spiral out of control. If you don’t put your foot down now, it can lead to a lot of problems down the road.
Post # 5
If there’s any advice I can give a bride it’s to do what YOU want to do. You won’t regret it.
Post # 6
A lot of hotels let you bring dogs for like an extra $5 or $10 a night. We have a pit bull and no one once asked us the breed nor did the website say they had any restricted breeds so that’s something for them to look into.
Post # 7
@GingerSnapped19: Ouch, I would be really upset if my parents told me they wouldn’t be coming because of their pets. Is there no where that could keep the dogs for the weekend? In my area, we have a couple “doggy hotels” that care for your dogs while you are away. That’s a tough one. I would for sure want my parents there, but if they can’t make it because of their dogs…I would say the heck with it and do it in Gettysburg anyway. After all, it is YOUR day and you said yourself how much you love Gettysburg.
Post # 8
I say do it. Call their bluff. I have a hard time believing they would not attend the wedding due to their dogs. I think they are just using the dogs as an excuse to manipulate you into doing what they want.
Post # 9
Are there any pet friendly hotels or a doggy daycare in Gettsyburg?
Post # 10
@GingerSnapped19: They can’t hire a pet sitter? That stinks, I know it’s frustrating when family doesn’t seem to feel that your wedding is important. I’m dealing with that with a few of my family members and it hurts.
If you have it locally you can keep the guest list down (without hurting too many feelings) but picking a small venue. Our max was 88 people so we kind of spread the word that unfortunately due to the size of the venue we couldn’t invite everyone we would have liked to.
Post # 11
@GingerSnapped19: What? That sounds totally unreasonable to me. Surely there is a kennel they can board their dogs at, or a house sitter they can hire? Is there a possibility that they just don’t want you to have your wedding there, for some reason, and are grasping at straws for excuses?
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2014 - Firehall
It’s all because of the dogs breed that they can’t find a kennel or anything, plus the one has cushings disease and needs medicine daily.
My FI and I visit Gettysburg every October, and my dad was like “Just have your honeymoon there”… no. We want to go somewhere we may not ever get the chance to go to again for our honeymoon.
Post # 13
There are plenty of places that will board dogs for a few days, even if they are pitbulls. If not, there are places where the dogs could stay if your parents come to Gettysburg. My best friend has a boxer, and she is staying at a house by the beach that allows dogs. There are places like that in Gettysburg. Plan your wedding how you want it (and Gettysburg is an awesome idea!!) and make sure you have a ton of information for your stubborn parents.
Post # 14
There’s no staff member at their vetrinarian’s office who can house sit two well behaved pitbulls for a day or two? There’s no dog sitting in all of Pittsburgh that can do it? I find that unfathomable. I’d do what you want to do and let your parents solve their own issues.
Post # 15
@GingerSnapped19: surely your parents could put the dogs in kennels. It sounds like an excuse. I’d do what you want and have your wedding where you want.
Post # 16
I say find them a pet sitter or a boarding place, and book your dream location. Don’t take a backseat to their pets. This is your chance to do something that you want, go for it!