Post # 1
What do you do with all of the “So, are you pregnant yet?” questions while you’re TTC? Some people (like my mother) know that we’re trying to have a baby, others just know that we want to have kids some day fairly soon. We’ve been trying for four months have haven’t had any luck yet, and it’s pretty tough to just play it off when we get questions. We’ve told family members to lay off, but what do you do about those who are just asking out of curiosity? It’s hard to say “Nunya business” so many times…
Post # 3
We have decided to tell no one until it’s official. And by no one I mean just that. Sorry mom, but you’ll know when everyone else does. It’s totally stressful. I would honestly go the more lighthearted or passive approach if someone asks you who you feel you can’t be so blunt with.
If you don’t mind, can you share to us why you told people? I’m not trying to sound rude, i just want to know.
Post # 4
I personally shared with 2 or 3 people when we were TTC, and my Mom was one of them. I suppose I wanted her to be aware of what was going on, and I told the others because they’re good friends and I wanted the moral and prayer support.
It can put extra pressure on those who are TTC for others to know, yes. But it can also be nice to have a sounding board, or at least the emotional support of others. That’s pending their ability to stay quiet about it, and their ability to be sensitive and not ask all the time.
@the original poster, people can be so dang annoying, no? I didn’t personally get too many people asking. The awkward questioning continues when you’re pregnant, too. I wish you well in kindly saying “Sorry, but those details are for me and my husband to know at this point” :).
Post # 5
I too told two people, my sister and my Future Sister-In-Law, that we were TTC. I wanted to make sure my sister was okay with it since I am in her FL wedding next May. It was helpful to know I had support and could vent and giggle about babies and TTC without telling everyone.
We didn’t wait after our wedding to start TTC, so we missed most of the annoying “when” questions. Although I have one particular coworker who likes to tease and joke with all the women in the office, myself included, about us all being preggers. For the most part I either shrug it off, or say something along the lines of wanting to settle into married life, settle into our new home, or have some time to travel/enjoy being alone before having kids. It might be a little vague or misleading if you are TTC, but at least it tends to get people to drop it for a bit.
Post # 6
if you are ok with people knowing youre trying, i would just say, not yet but we will be sure to tell everyone when we are!
good luck getting that bfp!
Post # 7
@Miss Sapphire , some people know because when people were bugging us about it earlier, we said that we wanted to wait until after we went to Europe, and, well, we’re back. The people who know are quite near and dear to us (moms, best friends, etc.) The best friends know because they have a kid, and I wanted advice.
I guess what I’m most frustrated about is my own frustration with TTC. I know that month four isn’t that far into it, but every time I get my period I’m frustrated, and people asking me about it just reminds me that we have yet to be successful.
Sigh. I know it’ll happen in some way, shape or form, but I’m so over this wait!!!