Post # 1
I’ve only been to two weddings both when I was young and it was family members. I got invited to a wedding by someone I don’t know really well, but would like to. And so I have some (probably dumb) questions.
1. I read on here somewhere I shouldn’t wear black? I have a simple “little black dress” I’m wondering about with a colored cardigan and gray boots.
2. Would black slacks with a top be okay? The same I wear to work. Or should it be a dress/skirt.
3. And if neither of those are acceptable I’m going to go buy something to wear if I need to, any suggestions? I just had a baby so I’m wanting to keep my legs and arms covered. I would like to go to old navy, target, jc penny, fred meyers, it’s this coming month so I don’t have time to order online.
3. Where do I sit during the ceremony? I don’t want to sit with the family when I’m not supposed to.
4. And we are having a break before the reception so they can take pictures, what am I supposed to do? they are only having dessert and appetizers so I’m assuming we’ll be having those at the reception?
I don’t want to mess anything up or annoy anyone as I won’t know anyone there and I keep reading about irritating guests on here!
Oh and I’ve checked out her website and invitation and it doesn’t say anything about a dress code, they are a young super laid back couple, children are invited, but the venue is upscale.
Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
I think wearing black to weddings is getting pretty common now, especially if you pair it with a colourful cardigan or scarf or something I think that would be fine. I have never worn pants to a wedding but I guess some women do, I think most of us like the chance to dress up a bit! If the venue is upscale I’d probably wear a dress. Just sit somewhere towards the back – definitely not the first couple of rows but don’t stress too much. Also, you are expected to entertain yourself in that gap between ceremony and reception. If you know other people attending there might be a trip to the pub or a nearby bar. But DH and I have been known to do our grocery shopping in that gap 🙂
Post # 4
@mountain.bride: What do you do with your groceries?
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2011 - The Viceroy
Some people stay away from black for weddings, but that’s becoming pretty outdated–I see guests in black at every wedding I go to, and I’d be comfortable wearing black as well. Just don’t wear all white/ivory ;). Also you can wear pants, but I think a dress might be better.
As long as you don’t sit in the first few rows you will be fine.
If they are having an appetizer & dessert reception I’d probably use the in-between time to get some food!
Post # 6
@PixelmePretty – not sure what you mean but we left the church, drove to the store, did the shopping, dropped it at home, watched some TV, then went to the reception. It was a 3 or 4 hour gap from memory. If it hadn’t been in our home town I guess we would have gone to find some dinner (since you aren’t getting any at the reception), or just back to the hotel. I am not a fan of gaps at all, but sometimes they are unavoidable!
Post # 7
@mountainbride- wow that was a long gap! I’ll be having a 2 hour gap at mine, which includes a twenty min drive, few drinkies with guests, and one hour tops for pics.
OP – I def agree if it’s a dessert etc reception, use the gap to go find yourself some kind of a dinner!