Post # 1
I Should start by introducing the situation. I Am Catholic, Born and Raised I have been though all the Sacrements the next one for me being Matrimony. My SO Is a member of the Apostolic Faith Church, Something very similar to Pentecostal. My Father passed away when I was 21 he was only 50, and I am not exactly close to my mother. We are opting for a catholic wedding outside of mass, As where his church does not practice communion and I would not want to risk making any of his family uncomfortable. I Have done alot of researching online and cannot seem to find what I would do in this case where we are not both catholic and only 1 of my parents is alive and I am not very close to her, In regards to invitations. Traditionally you see Brides Dad & Brides Mom invite you to celebrate with them as thier daughter and son in law… Sacrement of matrimony. But I do not want to include that in mine, and I cannot start it off with his parents names as it is in my church, and while our values are similar the churches are very different. Please Help!!!
Post # 3
@ChantelleC90: Traditionally, invitations are sent out by the host and hostess. As the bride’s parents would have often paid for the wedding, the invitations were often sent out by them, on behalf of the bride and groom.
If you are paying for your wedding, you and Fiance are the host and hostess. Therefore the invitations should be sent from both of you. Hope this helps!
Post # 4
@ChantelleC90: I wouldnt worry about putting any other names on the invite unless they are paying for/contributing to the wedding fund. Names on invites are not because its a church tradtion, its basically all about money! The tradition of brides parents names stems from the days of old when the father of the bride typically footed the bill.
Im catholic, Fi is catholic…we’re getting married in the catholic church but we are hosting on our own…and all our invites say is shanbp and shanbp’s Fiance request the honor of your presence as we exchange vows on our wedding day blah blah blah. We wanted to make note of our families just because (even though we’re hosting alone) so we added a line “please join together with our families in celebration” at the bottom.
Ours is not as formal as nuptial mass because were just having the ceremony and a liiiiiiiittle extra…. but you would just add in your sacrement of matrimony etc… line instead of our exchange of vows…
IF your mom/his parents are paying… then you will need to speak to them about whether they expect to me on the invite. If your mom is… then you can simply have her name on it alone, or followed by …”Mrs brides mom and the late Mr. Brides dad” (if you want to honor him that way). Otherwise your mom alone is fine.
ex: mrs. brides mom requests the honor of your presence at the nutial mass of her daughter ________ to _________ son of __________ (if they are helping pay)
If you and Fiance are hosting it by yoursleves then no parents names need to be on there at all!
Post # 5
Actually our said nupital mass, but since you aren’t having a mass then I’d put holy matrimony, as mantrimony can be considered holy by all protestant faiths.
Post # 6
@ChantelleC90: I agree with Rachel361. There were all these books and online advise things about how to “properly” write wedding invitations with very reason behind them beside “this is just how its done.”
My recommendation is to use traditional wording and don’t worry about Catholic wording. There’s just special wording for mentioning that the ceremony will include a Mass. Since you’re not having a mass, you don’t need to figure out how to politely include that information.