Questions about heirloom rings…

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: How to ask for the heirloom ring...
    Ask grandpa only, it's his ring to do with what he pleases and don't worry about what others think. : (16 votes)
    80 %
    Ask Dad and Mom first and if they say its OK, then ask grandpa. : (3 votes)
    15 %
    Ask my brothers and make sure there are no real objections first. : (0 votes)
    Don't ask for it at all. : (1 votes)
    5 %
    Ask for it but only temporarily. Buy a new ring at a 10 year anniversary and pass the heirloom on. : (0 votes)
    Ask for the diamond only and offer the ring to someone else to have a new stone put in it. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    50 posts
    Worker bee

    Hey there, I asked my boyfriend his opinion about your problem, so that you could get a man’s perspective. He suggested that you sit down with your grandfather and just be open and honest when asking for the ring. He thought it would be a good point to say that you loved your grandmother very much, and giving her ring to your girlfriend would be a great way for your grandmother to still be a part of your lives/relationship.

    Your girlfriend loves the ring because your grandfather has exquisite taste, and you love the ring because it represents an almost-70 year relationship that you hope to emulate with your marriage.

    Ultimately, regardless of your other family members’ feelings about the ring, it’s your grandfather’s decision as to what to do with it. The worst he’ll say is no, but I’ll bet he’ll be flattered that you wanted the love of your life to wear the ring that belonged to the love of his life. Good luck!

    Post # 4
    Member
    547 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @LumpySpacePrincess:  +1. This is one of those moments in life where a man to man discussion is warrented. IF he says yes then talk to your siblings/parents individually and let them know how excited you are and make sure there’s no hurt feelings.  It may also one day be passed down to one of their children or grandchildren, not just yours. 

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