Post # 1
My FI is Jewish and he and his mother would like to have a rabbi officiate our wedding (ceremony will not be in a synagogue though). I do not actively practice any religion, but they say it will be no problem finding a rabbi to do an inter-faith ceremony.
FI isn’t very religious. I’ve never been to temple or been to a Jewish wedding or a ceremony officiated by a rabbi.
I guess I just don’t know what to expect? Like what does the rabbi usually say? Are there certain readings? Is there the typical exchange of vows? How long does the ceremony usually take?
I haven’t been able to find very good websites on this, and my FI seems pretty clueless about it.
Post # 3
You might want to peek into this thread
Two Jews Getting Married: Practically Interfaith!
which deals with a different issue but discusses a bit what makes a ceremony ‘jewish’. There is little that has to be there. What the rabbi says and reads is entirely up to him and the couple. There’s usually a chuppah, some common elements are the seven blessings, the circling and the breaking of the glass, both bride and groom being walked down the aisle by both parents. Do you know about the ketubah – not something you have to have but many people like the tradition.
A rabbi that does an interfaith wedding will probably be Reform and fairly flexible.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2018 - Ritz Carlton, Marina Del Rey
I’d highly recommend getting Anita Diamant’s The New Jewish Wedding. It’ll give you a wide array of ideas about Jewish and interfaith ceremonies with a Jewish twist. Miss Hermit Crab just wrote post on it the other day:
And here’s a post on our ceremony, though ours was probably a bit more hard core than most intercultural weddings:
Post # 5
@hotcocoa- I was excited to see the thread and read your suggestions. I will be getting these books asap. FMIL who was raised Catholic but converted to Judaism to marry FFIL (and is somewhat bitter about it) all of the sudden is insisting that we have Jewish traditions in our ceremony. Our wedding is 2 months away! FH never had a bar mitzvah and neither did his brother. They only celebrate Chanakah and Passover? Not Rosh Hashanah or Yom Kippur…weird imo.
I was raised agnostic-ish and FH and I are not religous at all. Hopefully we can accomodate FMIL by doing something…Although religion is hard to compromise on.
Post # 6
My boyfriend is also Jewish (I am not, have not yet decided about conversion yet), but I was recommended a book called Celebrating Interfaith Marriage by Rabbi Devon Lerner. It’s pretty inexpensive on Amazon and has been a great resource.