(Closed) Questions for a Baptist

posted 5 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Im not sure if this is only a Bapist thing, but mostly everyone uses a unity candle. You can only imagine the faces when I said that I didn’t want to do it (getting married at my church). My SIL said freaking out “well how will people know that you are married?!!!”. Lol I said “well with the pastor saying I pronounce you man and wife would be a good hint”. Im not trying to be disrespectful. I just don’t want to do what everyone does unless I have to. If it is a must, I will. And of course, I won’t if it is an option. Our pastor is very understanding and open. Im sure he won’t be upset if I say no to the candle.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Why don’t you ask his dad then?  

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You could probably get permission to have his dad say a special prayer or something.  Talk to your priest.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Unity candles aren’t allowed in Catholic & Episcopalian weddings. Talk to your Priest first.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Unity candles weren’t allowed at the plain old Christian church I was married at either.

I don’t think there are any wedding traditions that are Baptist-only.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

 Nope as far as I know there are no Baptist traditions. We don’t typically do any ‘rituals’ or anything other than the scriptures read when taking the Lord’s Supper. 

I’ve read the unity candle was actually started on a tv soap opera 🙂 Not too holy lol 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

I think a scripture reference and a prayer would be sufficient in incorporating ” baptist” traditions. Baptist are more concerned about the reception aka- no alcohol or dancing! When people asked me I said we were having a Baptist  ceremony with a Catholic reception ! Haha:)

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Wait, I’m confused. I know for a fact that I’ve been to Catholic weddings that have a unity candle. Why would it not be allowed?

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@SunnyBunny:  I’ve heard that too!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

@JenGirl:  It depends on the parish – in many Catholic churches/dioceses they are prohibited, in most they are at least discouraged, but some allow them if the couple really wants them and some do them regularly. Here is a recent thread that discusses it.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I come from a long line of Baptist, and Baptist preachers. For weddings I haven’t seen any strong traditions. It feels like the approach of how the service is done in Baptist weddings verse other demoninations is a bit different. (Plus Baptist preachers tend to do longer sermons, so watch out. 🙂 ) We did a blessing of the rings in our service. It was a nod to our beliefs in the laying of hands, without everyone having to lay a hand on us. They passed around the rings and layed hands on them and added thier prayers. It worked out well for us, and it meant a lot to have those individual prayers added to the day. The smaller your guest count the better it works, but we had 150 and it worked out just fine.

Also, Baptist are just more hesitant to the reception. Drinking is often off limits. Deffinitly a prayer before the meal. Some dont even like dancing. For us – We had a prayer before dinner. We did have drinks for those who wanted it, our toast was ‘virgin’ so everyone could participate, and we did dance. Those in my family who are the most strict still wouldnt dance and deffinitly didn’t drink, but they were okay with others doing so. But every family is different, so I wouldnt assume anything.

More of the Baptist traditions play out in life, such as your childrens baptism. Once you have kids those will be the conversations that may take some work.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@JenGirl:  Ours would allow it because it’s a secular tradition and they don’t feel it has a place in a worship service.  I personally find it a little ridiculous – people get that you are being united because of your vows.

Disclaimer: I am not Baptist.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@KCKnd2:  Interesting – thanks for the link!

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