Post # 1
Hello everyone 🙂
I have a few questions about the whole “engagement party” thing….
How long do people typically wait to have an engagement party after the actual engagement?
Also, what are some of the types of get togethers/parties that everyone had for their engagement party?
Post # 3
Ours might have been a little non-traditional because we have a really long engagement…
We got engaged in March 2008, and my parents threw us a party in August 2008. We had it at a local golf course/country club in one of their rental rooms. It was a brunch party so we did like eggs, sausages, muffins, etc. and coffee and mimosas. We had about 30 people there I think. We didn’t register or anything for it…people just brought picture frames, albums, wine, etc. It was fun :o)
Post # 4
We had ours about 3 months after we got engaged and had a more low key party where we reserved a private room in a favorite bar and provided open bar for two hours with some appetizers. It was a ton of fun though and everyone seemed to really enjoy themselves.
Post # 5
I’m not so sure how I feel about an engagement party. I’ll take one if someone throws it for me – but that’s about it. I’m way too broke to throw one myself!!
But I really think when you have it depends on you and FI’s feeling for it … it’s usually low key and small … but it’s all about your taste. I wouldn’t wait any longer than say, 6 months to have the engagement party …
Post # 6
The engagement party usually takes place soon after the engagement…ours was 2 months after we got engaged, but the wedding wasn’t for another year. I would say it definitely needs to happen at least 8 months before the big day. We had already started a registry, but did not include the info on the invitation (because it’s not a shower and gifts are not required). We had approximately 75 guests and served hors’d’ouerves and wine. It was an afternoon thing and we had a great time. At one point, my dad and fiance made a toast that was really touching. (: We got a few gifts, some from our registry. And at the party, we announced the wedding date.
Post # 7
everyone’s ideas sound nice. thank you.
our parents (mine and FI) would be throwing it for us, i was just trying to get some ideas on what everyone did.
we would probably have about 75 people, but i think it still could be casual and low key. i would rather focus on the wedding being a big deal as opposed to the engagement party being a huge bash.
sooo, we live in CT and the weather is getting cooler now so I was thinking we could wait until it got a bit warmer and do a luau at my sisters house. Does this sound tacky or cheesy? Be honest…………
Post # 8
Ok. Honestly…it sound cheesy. :-/ If you’re making it casual (which I think is a GREAT idea), why don’t you try to do a casual variation on your wedding? Our wedding is using a lot of trees & branchy-moss stuff as a motif, so for the e-party we used candle-holders made of twigs. On each table we put pictures of the two of us growing up and it was a huge hit…and very simple to do. I think the luau theme is a little too much like a birthday party or sorority rush event (I was in charge of rush week for my sorority in college…lol). However, outside would be pretty awesome. I like that. (:
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
Ours is being thrown on January 9, 2010 by family friends. It was going to be in October, but I piddled around too long with a lot of stuff. We got engaged January 1, 2009 and are getting married on June 19, 2010.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I had 2! Well, 3 if you count the brunch my FH organized for right after he proposed, there was about 30 people at that one, back in March. Then my parents threw a BBQ bash in June with about 60 people or so, and we played bocce and volleyball and had a keg and good food, an all around good time…Then FILs are hosting a brunch down in Miami, where they are from, in Nov at a country club for about 80 people…So there ya go, lots of options, it’s really just to celebrate your engagement, you can do whatever you want! I actually think the luau idea is really cute, go for it!
Post # 11
Alot of people throw an engagemtn party very soon after the engagement. That being said, there is no proper time, ours was about 10 months after he proposed. No one thought twice about it adn it was a great party.
Post # 12
We might have one next summer since we’re having a long engagement and people can generally travel over summer. I’d like my family & friends to meet his before the event; and we’d still have a year to go before the date. I love the idea of announcing the date at the engagement party!
Post # 13
We got engaged in October 2008 and my Aunt and Uncle threw us an angagement party in June 2009. It was a casual. Pool party/BBQ at their house. We live far from both our families-so this was the first time I had seen my family since then and it was wonderful for them to do that for us! I don’t think that there is a specific time to have the engagement party or if it is even necessary. I didn’t even expect to have one…but it was a nice gesture 🙂
Post # 14
we’re having ours 9 months after we got engaged. we wanted it then because it’s thanksgiving weekend and a lot of people will be in town, including my sister/moh. it’s kinda close to our wedding, but oh well. we’re having it at a park where we got engaged. it’ll be very low key, a bbq.
Post # 15
We got engaged in May and didn’t have our engagement party until early September. It was an ultra casual backyard bash – we sent out e-vites, bought a keg, provided apps and asked everyone to bring something. We viewed it as just another great excuse to get together with our loved ones and celebrate this awesome time in our life. It was so much fun and such a great way to kick-off the wedding planning. I personally love being engaged and I defiinitely wanted to experience every little bit of it so I’m so glad we didn’t skip it!
Post # 16
Because we live far away from my FMIL who wanted to throw the party with her best friend, ours is probably going to be in late november/early december… or after exams for us. We get married in May.
I know it’s a little late, but I think it’s something she just really wanted to do. And since we don’t really expect gifts, it’s just a nice chance for our extended families to get to know each other! I think it will be fun 🙂